The worst thing about self-doubt/imposter syndrome could be described as an uninvited guest who shows up to your big event, whispers you don’t belong, then talks you out of your moment and you two go on a shopping spree while your guests wonder where you are. Sound familiar? You're not alone. Most people, even the ones who look like they've got it all together, wrestle with that nagging voice that says, "Who do you think you are?"
The truth is that voice is lying to you to keep you afraid of your true potential and who you are meant to be. You have the strength to overcome any doubt and fears you may face. You know why? Because you created them. You create everything in your life. Why not get in the drivers seat, take control and put imposter syndrome out of the car.
Step 1: Recognize the Lies
Imposter syndrome loves to disguise itself as "humility" or "being realistic." Spoiler alert: It's neither. Next time you hear, "You're not qualified for this," ask yourself, "Says who?" If it’s not coming from a reliable source, like actual experience or feedback, it’s just noise.
Action Step: Write down the negative thoughts. Next to each, write one piece of evidence that proves it's wrong. For example:
- "I'm not good at this." → "Actually, I delivered a presentation last week and got great feedback."
Step 2: Embrace the Awkward Phase
Have you ever watched a baby giraffe learn to walk? It’s all wobbly legs and questionable balance, but it keeps going. That's you when you're stepping into a new role or challenge. Awkwardness doesn't mean you don't belong; it means you're learning.
Action Step: Give yourself permission to be a beginner. Every expert was a disaster at some point. Yes, even that polished speaker you admire probably once tripped over a mic cord.
Step 3: Borrow Confidence
Until you have built up enough self-confidence in yourself, borrow some from someone who believes in you. We all have that one friend who hypes us up like we're Beyoncé. Channel their energy.
Action Step: Create a "Confidence File." Whenever someone compliments your work, save it. On tough days, read through it like it's your personal highlight reel.
Step 4: Take Center Stage—Literally
Imposter syndrome thrives in the shadows. The moment you step into the spotlight, it shrinks. Start small: speak up in meetings, share your ideas, or post that blog you've been overthinking.
Action Step: Challenge yourself to do one thing this week that makes you slightly uncomfortable. Bonus points if it involves saying, "I am the expert here," even if it’s just to your houseplants.
You're Already "Good Enough"
Facts: You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy of success. Confidence doesn't come from knowing everything; it comes from showing up despite not knowing everything.
So, the next time that imposter tries to sneak in, show it the door. And remember, the only person who needs to believe you belong is you!
No, now go step into the greatness you were born for—because the world needs the magic only you can bring.