In today's article we talk about two solutions that may help you in case you have anxiety problems or you find yourself in the confort zone and you do not know how to get out from there..
The first thing:
When you have a negative emotion you have to admit to yourself that you feel a negative emotion,from there you can begin to overcome it, but if you don't admit to yourself that you feel that emotion you risk two things:
- keeping it inside:
This can make you feel even worse and not solve the problem for years keeping it inside until the moment you explode:
- emotional vomiting:
is a syndrome in which there is recurrent vomiting, without any organic pathology or as “functional vomiting” as a result of psychological mechanism
How to solve the problem in practice? 🙂
VULNERABILITY IN PRACTICE
Let's come to the practice.
1.ACCEPTANCE LEADS TO ACTION
When you are in a situation where you are uncomfortable,the first thing to do is to admit that you are uncomfortable.
Admit it to yourself and to others if you want to, don't hide it. Accept it.
I have approached many girls, but each time I always felt some anxiety.
At first I didn't want to accept it, I was trying to fight this, at some point I said to myself,
"Fuck what others may think, I'm an anxious guy, and that's okay, I admit it," and paradoxically the anxiety decreased.
I didn't do it because I said myself,
"If I admit it, I won't come back it anymore,"
I told myself that,because I felt it,and by admitting it,I took some of the pressure off this unpleasant situation.
2. ACTION
Once you have accepted your difficulties, it is time to go ahead and approach the girl.
At this point you don't have to do this, If you don't feel up to it, don't worry.
Don't judge yourself, it's normal, many men have many fears and many of them don't even want to face them, so don't judge yourself, nothing bad happened, just relax..
At this point the only thing to do is to take a step back and deal with the situation step by step.
Are you afraid to approach a girl, for example?
Commit to asking people
"what time is it"
Until it makes you comfortable.
If you are not used to it, it is normal to feel uncomfortable.
In this case, accept it and admit it.
If you want,you can do it with any girls as well.
Instead,if you want to approach a girl but you find yourself in the situation where you feel certain emotions,you could say to her, for example:
"I saw you and I decide to come here to say hello to you, I'm a little shy and I'm a little embarrassed, but I decided to jump in, nice to meet you, my name is (your name)."
Such a sentence is honest and because of it,could be more effective than done sentence that you actually don't feel.
Once you have stated this the interaction will inevitably be more relaxed and gain in quality, you will be more relaxed because you have nothing to hide.
That's all for today!
See you in next article !
Steve