Today's is a very important article if you want to get a good understanding of how to really get to know a woman: I will explain in practice how to do rapport.
What is rapport?
It is that phase necessary,to seduce a woman,that takes place after attracting her.
If you want a detailed explanation you can read the specific article, but for now, it is enough to know that rapport is that moment when, after a woman it's already attracted, we have to start really getting to know each other, beyond just flirting and teasing.
So: first attraction, then rapport. First we attract her, and then we really get to know her.
The truth is that we all unconsciously already know how to do rapport.
We get into rapport all the time with people, on various levels.
The problem can arise when we are having so much fun flirting with a woman that we forget to get to know her deep down, and get her to know ourselves in turn.
This, especially if we have no friendship in common, leads to strong interest while we are talking, but to nothing the next day,when she does not answer the phone.
In practice, rapport makes you go from:
"A cute guy I met last night...but I don't know if I'm going to date him"
to
"A cute, nice, and deep guy I had a great talk with last night.
We talked about so many things and I can't wait to see him again"
That's why rapport guidelines can be helpful.
Remember: they are just guidelines, not a path that you absolutely must follow.
At the same time they are very useful to make sure that after you have approached and attracted a woman, after you have only created attraction (and not rapport) the girl you like does not think
"Yeah, cute, nice, but geez I don't know anything about him!"
This must not happen so let's go straight into the analysis of rapport.
Let's immediately distinguish rapport into two types:
- wide rapport
- deep rapport
Wide rapport
You know when you are talking to your friend?
In most cases the conversion ranges and goes to various topics.
It sounds strange, but precisely the fact that it touches various topics gives a sense of familiarity because with strangers we often do not, with strangers we often talk about one or at least a few topics.
So in the wide rapport we go and touch on various "light" topics to give this sense of familiarity.
Remember: lights topics does not mean that they are of little importance, it means that good or bad are the topics we do not mind talking about with a stranger.
Topics for example may be:
- Work
- Nightclubs
- Events in town
- Animals
- Hobbies
- Movies
- Music
Now you see how these topics don't trouble anyone.
Surely a girl won't say to you,
"No, I can't tell you the last movie I watched, it's too personal!" 🙂
DEEP RAPPORT
A second thing you do with friends is talk about personal topics.
So in deep rapport we do the same thing: we talk about personal topics.
Obviously you can't do that with a girl you just met 2 minutes ago,that's why you usually tend to start in the wide rapport and end in the deep rapport.
Remeber: this does not mean that you have to go to deep rapport after 6 months of knowing her 🙂 . Keep in mind that if a woman likes you, she will be much more inclined to talk about personal things.
It has often happened to me to hear very very private things after even 20 minutes of conversation.
Every time it happened, there was already a strong attraction and a very good feeling.
At the same time, however, you should not put pressure on her, a good way is to say how you feel about a certain topic, to make her feel comfortable talking about her point of view.
A direct question, for certain topics, puts too much pressure.
Let your intuition guide you; after all, you have already known for many years what topics to talk about with certain people and what topics not to touch. How to do it and how not to do it.
Your social intuition already exists,it just goes out the window sometimes when you talk to a pretty girl.🙂
Examples of topics for deep rapport are:
- Personal passions
- Personal experiences
- Feelings toward certain situations or memories
- Childhood
- Worldview
- Fears
- Dreams
etc. etc.
HOW TO MAKE THE CONVERSATION FLOW IN RAPPORT
Rapport, like any phase of seduction, should not turn into an interview.
You don't have to just keep asking questions.
A good method is to ask a question, wait for the answer, and then say something on the subject.
When you say something you create many possible topics to talk about, if for example you say,
"Do you like animals?" "blah blah blah"
"Yes, I like dogs a lot too,I remember when I was a kid I had seen a Labrador on television and I had to insist for a long time with my parents to get one.
But then,you know that kids change their minds easily, so when we went to the mountains I saw a German Shepherd (dog),and I kept staring at it, almost scared me by how big it was, but at the same time I liked it, maybe because I dreamed of riding it" 🙂
Okay, this is an example that came to me at the moment, it is not my real story.
However, did you notice how many topics can start from the very short story I told?
The questions you can ask her are:
- "Were you a naughty child like me when you were a child?" 🙂
- "Do you change your mind easily or are you someone who always knows what she wants?"
- "Do you like the mountains or do you prefer the sea?"
- "Ever gone riding?"
Following this pattern, getting to know each other certainly does not become a series of boring questions that would put pressure on anyone.
Most importantly, when you say goodbye, she will think,
"Gosh, we used to talk so well together."😉
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See you in the next article 😉
Steve