Seduction is composed of certain steps, or rather: it is not composed of steps but it is useful to break it down into steps in order to understand it and thus win a girl or woman more easily.
Winning a woman is a process, and this process has steps.
The thing is intuitive: you will unlikely have sex after 30 seconds of talking to a woman you just met.
The step is not the right one.
The steps follow a natural progression, it is spontaneous for two people who like each other to get to know each other progressively deeper and deeper: when you approach an unknown woman, you don't talk about the same things you talk about with your girlfriend, or do you? 😉
Of course, the different steps are not defined by stakes!
One doesn't end at minute 2.51 and the second one begins at 2.52!
They mix, but at the same time they are very different.
So I propose to you a clear and simple set of phases, further distinctions could be made, and we will make them, but the most important thing is that you have these 5 well in your head...
THE 5 STAGES OF SEDUCTION
1.Approach
2.Attraction
3.Rapport
4.Closing Games
5.Relationship
In each stage there are fruitful actions, unfruitful actions, and actions that make things worse.
In other words, there are certain things that done for example in attraction turn on female interest, while in rapport they turn it off.
Let's briefly define the various stages:
1. APPROACH
From the time you see a woman until the first exchanges, more precisely until the moment she feels comfortable with you (of course there will be some awkwardness, but it is not a problem).
Useful characteristics: courage, confidence, good energy, good communication, irony, etc. etc.
If you want to learn how to approach women you can start from here (click here.)
If you want more there is an Ebook just for that: "How to meet new women"
2. ATTRACTION
At this stage there is a mutual settling of value, both of you define what the other's reproductive value is depending on the characteristics he shows.
The most useful characteristics at this stage, for a man, are: confidence, masculinity, irony and self-deprecation, having good social skills, being outgoing, having good verbal, paraverbal and body language communication, etc. etc.
To fully understand what intepersonal attraction is read this article, to learn how to create attraction you can read the Ebook Instant Attraction.
3. RAPPORT
Stage where deeper communication is created and we really get to know each other.
Useful characteristics: ability to be empathetic, good communication,etc.etc.
I talk about rapport in various articles such as this one on what to say to a girl to really get to know her.
4. CLOSURE OF THE GAMES (OR MORE SIMPLY: "CLOSURE")
From rapport phase to first sexual intercourse.
Useful characteristics: all those mentioned above, plus knowing how to create an ever-deepening bond and logistical skills. I discuss Closure phase in various articles.
5. RELATIONSHIP
What begins after the first sexual intercourse.
The relationship can be of various types: from simple "friends with benefits" to a faithful relationship, to marriage.
I talk about the relationship in various articles, for example this one on long-distance relationships.
What if the relationship ends? Here's how to win a woman back.
Skipping stages creates problems; the most common mistake is to skip the attraction stages and go straight into rapport, thus ending up in the friendship zone.
To better understand this mechanism I recommend you read the article on the good guy.
Steve