Today let's talk about a topic that may be very interesting for many men: how to last longer.
And when I talk to you about lasting longer, don't think of the tricks they suggest in the gym.
These tricks actually only make things worse as they make you lose focus on the woman,you are having sex with,and thus make the relationship less intense and enjoyable for both of you.
So in today's article we'll look at:
- why you need to worry less about it
- how long a sexual intercourse should last
- why learning how to last longer
- basic tips and techniques for lasting longer
- advanced tips and strategies
How to last longer in bed: why you should worry less than you think
Lasting long in bed is essential to make a woman enjoy herself, despite the fact that in the stories at the bar and in the shower they are all such great lovers that Rocco Siffredi(pornoactor) has only to learn...
The truth is that an average intercourse lasts between 5 and 7 minutes and 50% of men last 2 minutes.
I will tell you more.
Some students have found that by giving anonymous questionnaires these percentages go up and many men admit to lasting between 1 and 2 minutes.
So...although to you that lasting longer may seem like the biggest problem in this world believe me when I tell you that you are in good company.
I know that,this does not solve the situation in your head.
In fact, if you find yourself in this situation...
Or In the situation where she can't get close enough to give you a blowjob that you fear cuming on her face...
A pat on the back and a...
"Hey don't worry. You're not the only one who suffers from premature ejaculation"
Certainly doesn't make you feel any better...
But don't worry because today we look at techniques and remedies to solve this problem.
And actually the fact that you are in good company should not be a reason to take this lightly but you should be motivated to become better and better in bed so that you can,make all the other men she may come in contact with eat your dust and have an unfair advantage over them.
Last longer in bed: but how long should sexual intercourse actually last?
There is actually no real answer to this question.
Some questionnaires report that women think intercourse should last between 15 and 25 minutes (80% of guys are not able to last that long).
Others say that ideally they should be able to last around 45 minutes.
The truth is that every woman is different, the female body does not have a timer inside her so once you have lasted tot, you have fulfilled your duty as a man.
As long as the woman is wet, sexual intercourse can go on, and keeping her well lubricated is your job,and you can do it very well thanks to everything you learn on this site.
This is precisely why here on the site I have more focus on lasting as long as you want and not on having x duration,which is a parameter that doesn't really make sense.
Why you need to learn how to last longer in bed First
The longer you last the longer you and her enjoy.
I don't think there is much to say about that.
However, there are some less obvious reasons.
Let's go and analyze them...
"Cure" your insecurities.
Oneself ability to have a lasting sexual relationship undermines the self-esteem of a lot of boys and men, especially those who last less than 5 minutes.
This problem can seriously affect the way a man sees himself (that's why the choice of image).
This is because having a date and having to worry about how long you will last in bed ruins the connection you want to make with a woman.
Similarly, it is not pleasant to have to worry about risking losing a woman we like,because of our performance in bed and our endurance.
And no one likes being unable to satisfy their woman fully during a relationship.
But even worse,sometimes we make a beautiful connection with a woman and then lose her because of poor performance.
Sex should not be a source of insecurity for you,nor the "friction point" where you lose women you like!
Female orgasm
Studies show that less than 25% of women are able to orgasm during sex with their partners.
Unbelievable!
Of course there are so many factors that helps her having an orgasm (mental and technical) and on the site we go over them all, but none of this works in practice if you last less than two minutes.
I don't mean to be hard, don't get me wrong, simply are facts.
While I have reassured you, I cannot hide the truth from you and tell you clearly that
this is a problem that needs to be solved.
How to last longer in bed: basic tips
Below we go through some basic tips.
Actually, if you are totally uninformed about how to last longer,some of these tips might seem like advanced stuff.
It does not matter.
The important thing is not where you are right now but where we are going.
Kama Sutra Tecqnique
The technique we are going to look at comes directly from the Kama Sutra and,is particularly effective when we talk about delaying ejaculation.
The technique consists of starting extremely slowly (one stroke every three seconds) and very slowly increasing the rhythm during the first 4-5 minutes until you get to one stroke per second.
When you feel that sensation when you are about to cum (so not when you are at your limit) stay inside her and as soon as you have "calmed down" repeat this process.
Get out of your head
Performance anxiety is one of the number one enemies of erection and durability.
As soon as you feel that inside you start to worry,take a deep breath and get back to focusing on her.
Remember: the more you stress that you are in danger of coming, the sooner you will cum.
Get out
When you feel that you are about to cum get out and start masturbating and licking her until you have calmed down and feel ready to come back again.
Slow down
Here I'm going to tell you something counter-intuitive, but rough sex is not always what makes her enjoy it the most.
For two reasons:
- First,Sometimes slow sex it's more intense for her than rough sex because you take care of her whole body,and more intimacy is created than rough sex,in which you only think about fuck her as hard as possible.
- Second if you approach rough sex and then you don't last more than 2 minutes,if your goal is to give her pleasure,this type of sex does not really make sense.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling you that there aren't women who enjoy rough sex or that a single woman may not want it at a certain time.
I'm just reminding you, once again, not to look at sex from a male perspective.
Kegel exercises
Men's Kegel exercises (to train the pubococcygeal muscle) are great for:
- those who have erection problems
- improve the power of your erection even if you don't have this specific problem
- last longer
Kegel exercises work perfectly because the penis is rich in smooth muscle cells, as such, if trained with the correct methodology it improves performance.
Exercise intensity 7/9
I will also not dwell on the explanation here because I tell you about it in the E-book on how to last longer in bed. If you haven't downloaded it yet you can find it for here.
Decrease the depth of your penetration
When you feel you are about to cum (not when you are still able to control yourself)
start decreasing the depth of your strokes.
In this way you will lower the level of arousal and become able to control yourself again.
Apply pressure on the perineum
Apply strong pressure with your finger on the perineum (the area between the anus and the base of the testicles).
This technique, applied when you are about to cum,can help you stop the flow of sperm and give you time to calm down.
Get rid of your belly
If you have downloaded the e-book you may have noticed that I suggest you get in shape if you have figure problems.
Now,I will go a little deeper on this topic.
On the one hand, it is true that a Sex God has to be fit because if you are not, it will affect your perception of yourself in general, and your physical performance in particular (sex being one of them).
On the other hand, a study showed us,that men with a belly last about 5 minutes longer than thin men.
So,Should I follow Homer Simpson Method?
No!
This is because excess fat produces estradiol (a female hormone) within the body, which delays ejaculation.
So what is the solution?
The solution is to get in shape and apply all the tips found in the E-Book "Total Control" and in this article.
Masturbation
As you know here on the site I advise against masturbation for various reasons.
However, in case you have problems with duration masturbating before intercourse (being careful to calibrate your refractory period) might give you a hand when it comes to fucking.
The truth is that you have to try as each man responds differently:
- for some it helps
- for others it doesn't
- for others it makes things worse (in the sense that you then have trouble getting a good erection if you masturbate too much)
What you should never do, however, is to do things halfway.
Let me explain... Some men take masturbation as a relaxation technique.
If you are one of them, you might masturbate just a little without reaching orgasm.
This practice is an enemy of your durability in bed.
Now that I gave you some tips,let's go to have a look,at others that are a bit more extreme (that not always are recommended).
Take a vegetarian diet
Studies have shown that men who follow a vegetarian diet (especially with the intake of lots of fruit) last longer in bed than those who follow classic high-protein gym diets.
Despite this, I have to tell you two things:
- I advise against the vegetarian diet because it does not provide you with all the nutrients you need
- every person is different, and the fact that some people have had such a response does not mean that you will too (the opposite could also happen).
So play this card only if you already try everything and it didn't work.
Circumcision in adulthood
Other studies have shown that circumcised men in adulthood tend to last longer than others.
As you can see, this solution is rather extreme, so you should only think about it when you have already tried everything else and it has not worked.
Viagra
To conclude the topic on basic advice, I wanted to open a small parenthesis on Viagra.
In fact you might read or hear around that by taking the blue pill you can last longer.
Although this is true, Viagra is a pill that has side effects and, like any pill, should be taken only when truly needed and after consulting a doctor.
So avoid looking for magic pills by ordering it online and do the exercises found in this article
and in the E-Book.
Okay we have seen a whole series of tips on how not to cum right away and improve your performance in general.
Now let's go a little deeper.
How to last longer in bed and satisfy her: advanced tips and strategies
Okay let's go through a step-by-step guide on what you can do to improve in this area.
The tips we're going to look should be integrated with what we've faced so far in the article and in the e-book.
Improve your psychology about sex
This point is really crucial.
As you know here on the site I give you a lot of technical advice BUT no technical advice works if your subconscious doesn't help you.
Why is your psychology regarding your ability to satisfy your partner in bed so important?
For a very simple evolutionary reason.
At the "primitive" level, whenever you are in a stressful situation you send a signal to your brain, which in its primitive part believes that it must defend itself from attack by dangerous animals.
This, when you are in bed, translates into the fact that finding yourself naked (facing a possible attack) is not the best strategy for your survival and this leads your brain to try to "get the job done" as quickly as possible.
Now ... while you are perfectly aware on a logical level that you are not at risk of being attacked by a dangerous animals in your bedroom,BUT your primitive part does not do this kind of thinking and only recognizes the stress symptom.
So how do you solve the problem?
- First of all do the exercises.
This will increase your sense of confidence in your abilities and consequently decrease your stress levels.
- Second, you can practice Yoga or Meditation.
Scientific studies show that these practices are ables to decrease the levels of anxiety and stress after only two weeks.
Third you can go to work on what your beliefs are (the talk here gets rather long so I promise I will write an article on the subject).
Do daily exercises until you have solved the problem
By exercises I am referring to the Kegel exercises and the 7/9 exercise I told you about in the E-Book "Total Control" and a bit here in the article.
If you noticed in the title I used the word daily.
This is true for the Kegel exercises.
For exercise 7/9, a daily practice might be too much.
I know that you are impatient to solve the problem as soon as possible but in this case the saying that time is your friend and not your enemy is true.
It does not matter where you are now but where you are going.
Remember that when you are able to last as long as you want this is a skill that will remain with you for a lifetime just by continuing to exercise every now and then and practicing the greatest sport in the world....(sex).
Use techniques to last longer in bed during sex
Below we go through three techniques.
The first two are simple and easy to apply.
The third one will take you some practice and "effort" on a conscious level, but once you understand how to do it, using it will become a natural thing.
Strategic foreplay
Here on the site as you can see,I give so much importance about foreplay.
This is also because, as you should know by now, women do not distinguish between sex and foreplay as we men do.
So prolonging this part creates a feeling in them on a psychological level that the relationship has lasted much longer.
So let's go over the strategic sequence of foreplay you want to use during sex.
- Kiss
- Touch her
- Foreplay
- Masturbate her
- Lick her pussy
- Blowjob
- Sex
Change positions strategically
You should be aware of what are the positions that cause you the most problems with premature ejaculation.
So what you need to do about the positions is extremely simple.
As you should know if you have read the E-Book and some articles, there is a scale of arousal in men.
Do the positions with higher friction when you are lower on this scale.
The secret is this:
When you feel you are about to cum,all you have to do is get out (meanwhile let the arousal go down a bit) and move to a position you can handle better and then return again to a position with higher friction when you have calmed down properly.
Breathing
In the E-Book we already touched and went really deep on this topic.
Here I'm about to show you proper breathing to last longer in bed and improve endurance.
Diaphragmatic breathing helps you last longer than chest breathing.
Now you, however, might rightly object...
"Steve,but when I am there,making sex with my partner,I am not able to breathe with my diaphragm"
This is true but only because most people are used to breathing the incorrect way (chest).
If you practice breathing the correct way in normal situations you will make this type of breathing a habit without having to think about it when you are in bed with your partner.
Well......
With today's article you have a lot of things to work on to get to a champion duration.
Start working on it and don't worry.
I promise,I will keep posting material on the subject to get you exactly where you want to be.
I know how it feels,to not be able to last as long as you want or, even worse, to cum right away.
So I want to help you solve this problem once and for all.
For now, start applying what we have seen.
And as usual....
Make her enjoy it first in the head and then in the body,
Steve