How to tell if a girl likes you?
What are the signs of female seduction?
How to tell if there is interest and attraction?
What can you do to tell if a girl is interested in you?
The converse is simple: you need to know how to read the signals of interest that a woman may send.
What are these signals?
They are the more or less unconscious messages a woman sends when she likes a man, you can also call them signals of liking or attraction, the substance is still the same.
In this article you will find the 30 most important signals: ready to discover them all?
Then read the following list carefully and learn to see these behaviors in women.
At first you will have to pay attention to them, after that it will all come to you automatically without even thinking about it.
Someone might ask, "How many of these signals does a woman have to send me to make sure she likes me? Is there some kind of test?"
Be extremely sure is a difficult concept when we talk about social dynamics and female psychology, let's say as a rule to start with, look at at least 3 different signals.
If you see them, there is probably attraction.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU LIKE IT: THE LIST OF SIGNS OF INTEREST
So let's start with this list of signs of interest a woman can give you:
1 She looks at you even when she's doing something else: that's a good sign!
2 Maintains eye contact: that is,she doesn't look away immediately when you make eye contact.
3 She asks what your name is: you'll know from the context and other signs whether it's a courtesy gesture or something more
4 She asks you questions to learn more about you: more than just "what do you do in life?"
5 Tends to stay close to you: closer or for longer than in a normal conversation between friends or people you've just met.
6 Finds an excuse to start a conversation: this is very easy to figure out π
7 She touches her hair while talking to you: it's an unconscious gesture she makes to get your attention, think of some birds at mating time when they show their colorful feathers π
8 She compliments you: it can be about anything
9 She challenges you in a playful way: this is also a great way to flirt, challenge her too, laugh about it and it will increase the attraction!
She gives you a playful slap or fist bump: as in "silly!", usually happens after you joke.
10 She turns completely toward you: this is a strong signal especially if doing so she gives her friends her back.
11 She laughs at your jokes, even the not-so-good ones: ...and then looks you in the eyes.
12 Asks you if you have a girlfriend: this is a great signal!
13 Mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you have one (so she can see if you deny having one): exactly the same as asking you if you have a girlfriend.
14 She touches you/seeks physical contact (even lightly): once may be okay, two becomes a signal, from three on up it's a very strong signal.
15 She points out that she likes things you like: to create connection.
16 She tries to provoke a reaction in you to her actions: for example, she may pretend to be showing off, or talk to another guy, or other things.
17 She introduces you to her friends: and seems to care that you and her friends get along well together, as if you should be "approved" by the group
18 When you are with other people she tries to get noticed by you: often by inserting himself into conversations, talking more or laughing more.
19 She picks up the conversation when you drop it: you can also do this on purpose as a test.
20 She tries to make a connection with you: you can tell this with your emotions, not your mind.
21 She calls you a playboy.
22 She makes allusions to the fact that you have other women: this is a great signal of interest.
23 She makes up excuses to be near you or to be alone with you: this is also a great signal.
24 When she has to leave, she comes to you to tell you: as in, "Will you take my number?"
or "Will I see you again?".
25 When she sees you going,she asks you where you are going: as if to say "But how? You run away without telling me anything! When will I see you again? π "
UNDERSTANDING IF SHE LIKES YOU "NO-ACTION AS A SIGN OF ATTRACTION"
Other times instead of doing something, it does NOT do something. For example:
1 Doesn't follow her friends if they step away for a moment: because she is very interested and likes to talk to you.
2 Doesn't say she has a boyfriend (even if she has one): let's understand... it's not that a woman always has to say it, but if the conversation ends on the topic and she doesn't say anything...
3 She doesn't move away if you approach: you can do it as a test, get close to her and see how she reacts.
4 Doesn't resist when things get more sensual: do it little by little, so you see what she does as a result.
5 Doe.sn't resist when you propose moving together: you can propose "going for a drink at the bar" or "going for coffee," obviously the excuse depends a lot on where you are.
ANALYZE THE VARIOUS SIGNS OF WOMEN'S SEDUCTION
Now let's look at all these signs one by one, so that you can understand them all properly.
1. SHE LOOKS AT YOU EVEN WHEN SHE'S DOING SOMETHING ELSE
Imagine you are in a group of friends, or at any rate of people.
You are talking to her and after a while, for a thousand reasons that can happen, you end up talking to someone else and so she does it too.
If at that point she occasionally glances at you, it means that she is not really into the conversation she is having with this new person, and she is interested in you.
Of course, she won't cast big glances at you, but quick glances while pretending not to, and that's a very good sign.
2. MAINTAINS EYE CONTACT
All people while talking to each other make a little eye contact, but when there is mutual interest the glances are a little longer.
You can also do this as a test, look her in the eyes more than necessary and see if she keeps her gaze or averts it.
Β Β 3. SHE ASKS WHAT YOUR NAME IS
This needs to be explained well.
Let's say you cold approach a group of girls (so you approach complete strangers).
After a while of talking one of them asks you what your name is,in this case it is a signal of interest.
"But how..." someone will say "...didn't you introduce yourself right away?!"
No, it is certainly not mandatory, I have done it hundreds of times and never had any problems.
A similar situation can also happen in a company of friends, if you don't know a girl yet, she may ask for your name.
There it depends--it may be a gesture of courtesy or a sign of interest, you will have to evaluate it from case to case.
4. SHE IS ASKING YOU QUESTIONS TO LEARN MORE ABOUT YOU
Because she is curious by you,she wants to know more about you, so she asks you questions.
This point I think is very clear π
5. TENDS TO STAY CLOSE TO YOU
If you are very close friends obviously this does not matter, because people who have a strong friendship often stay very close to each other.
But.... between strangers or people who know each other very little-there is a big difference there.
Why?
Because the interpersonal space (the space between people) of those who know each other a little, is larger, and so getting closer is a break in these "unwritten rules" and therefore a signal of interest.
In addiction, it is not only a matter of inches π , but also of time.
In other words: how long is she close to you?
If, for example, you have met recently, you are with other people and he is with you a lot, that is a good indicator.
6. FIND AN EXCUSE TO STRIKE UP A CONVERSATION
This of course if there is not already a mutual acquaintance, maybe you are in a club etc., is a super signal that makes you pretty much sure she likes you.
Of course, because women don't like to be seen as "easy," so already the fact that she strike up a conversation herself, even with an excuse, is a very strong indicator of interest.
7. SHE TOUCHES HER HAIR WHILE TALKING TO YOU
This is a signal she sends with her body language.
In fact, the female of many species tends to send "flashy" signals during the mating period to attract the male's attention.
That's it, it's kind of the same thing, it's an unconscious gesture and of course that comes from the fact that we are animals after all π
If we want to be honest, in nature there are also a lot of species where it's the male who makes blatant gestures to conquer (see the peacock for example) so in short, it's a proven habit.
The touching of the hair and moving it has even more significance when instead of just touching it, it moves it around leaving the neck free, it is an ancient signal where a very vulnerable part of the body is revealed.
That said, watch out as always for the circumstance, if it's 50 degrees and it's crazy hot,she's likely to move her hair,but that's not necessarily a sign of interest π .
8. MAKES YOU A COMPLIANCE
The compliment it can really be about anything, often it is an excuse to send you interest signal and nothing more.
So she may compliment you on your physical appearance but also on more mundane things such as an item of clothing, an accessory, or even something you said to her.
9. CHALLENGE YOU IN A PLAYFUL WAY
In addition to being a way of getting your attention, the challenge generates attraction and tension; it is a way of flirting.
The challenge can take place in many different ways starting with the very common teasing.
10. GIVES YOU A PLAYFUL SMACK OR A LITTLE PUNCH.
This often happens after you are teasing her, and it is often a very good signal, especially if you have known her for a short time, in that it is an invasion of your personal space, in a way that is also particular.
So she gets a little more confidence than there might be between strangers and she does it because she is attracted.
Then there are, of course, manesque women, but that's another thing... π π
11. SHE TURNS FULLY TO YOU
Imagine the situation... you cold approach a group of girls,start talking to all of them, and little by little you focus only on one of them, the one you like.
Well, if she turns to talk to you with her whole body, it is a good signal, also because it means that she is no longer turned toward her friends and therefore she is giving you her full attention.
This is also true if you are in a group of people and you have just met her,even if it is a less strong signal than when she is present in a cold approach instead.
12. SHE LAUGHS AT YOUR JOKES, EVEN ARE NOT-SO-GOOD ONES
If she laughs at all your jokes, and maybe she laughs more than the others, that is a signal.
Of course, you'll say, maybe you're the one who is making the crazy, hilarious jokes! π
Okay, that may be, but then would everyone in the group be laughing equally,why is she laughing more and laughing even at the ones that aren't so funny after all?! π
13. SHE ASKS YOU IF YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND
This is a signal as big as a house, I don't think I need to explain why π
14. MENTIONES YOUR GIRL WITHOUT KNOWING IF YOU HAVE ONE (TO SEE IF YOU DENY TO HAVE ONE)
Maybe she can say something like, "Blah blah blah, when you go out with your girlfriend you never go to that place.."
So you can say, "I don't have a girlfriend"
That way she will get the same information as she would get by asking you directly, but in a more refined, ninja-like way so she doesn't look like as an "easy girl."
15. SHE TOUCHES YOU / LOOKS FOR PHYSICAL CONTACT (EVEN LIGHTLY)
You may not notice, but very often people touch each other while talking.
It may be, for example, a hand on the shoulder (between men) or a hand on the forearm (between a woman and a man).
In fact,the latter kind of touch that happens often as a signal of interest...
Maybe she does it while laughing,maybe when she is about to tell you something important......
but she does it!
Now...if it is only once it may be a case, but if it is more than once,it becomes a signal that
she is attracted to you.
16. SHE LETS YOU NOTICE THAT SHE LIKES THINGS THAT YOU LIKE
As you talk she may realize that what you like comes up,
it may be for example a hobby or something else.
If she not only lets you notice that she likes the same thing too, but she cares about letting you notice,
and is happy that this connection is being made between you, it is a good sign.
17. TRY TO PROVOKE A REACTION IN YOU TO HER ACTIONS
This includes a long series of actions you can take for the sole purpose of creating a reaction in you.
For example:
- she teases you
- she challenges you
- she shows off
- talks to another guy
- she says something and looks at you to see how you react
Every situation is different but the point to keep in mind is that if she acts to create a reaction in you, she probably likes you.
18. SHE INTRODUCES YOU TO HER FRIENDS
This can happen in a cold approach,when,maybe when she is going out with you but you are not sure if there is anything.
For women it is very, very important that there is harmony between people, even more,
if these people are part of her life.
So it is important for her that her friends like you and you like them.
19. WHEN YOU ARE WITH OTHER PEOPLE SHE TRIES TO BE NOTICED.
It can happen in a variety of ways, for example:
- you are talking to another person and she inserts herself into the conversation
- you are talking to more people and she pushes to talk more
- she laughs more than the others, they are not at your jokes, to get noticed
- she takes any kind of action that puts her in the center of the attention to you
20. TAKES BACK THE CONVERSATION WHEN YOU LET IT FALL
Especially in the cold approach you will be the one that MUST begin and keep the conversation going on while you are trying with her.
Then, however, as a test, you can stop, don't talk for a moment, and drop the conversation,
if she picks it up it may mean that she is interested.
21. TRY TO CREATE A CONNECTION WITH YOU
This is not easy to explain because it is a whole series of micro-attitudesΓΉ
that are not well understood with logic.
So you have to go by feeling...
Does it seem to you that is she trying to make a connection?
Is she asking you particular questions that seem to be about connecting with you on a deeper level?
Most likely she is attracted.
22.SHE CALLS YOU A PLAYBOY, SHE MAKES ALLUSIONS THAT YOU HAVE OTHER WOMEN
This is both a signal of interest and a test.
First of all it is a signal because if she tells you that you are a playboy it means that she admits to herself that you are a man who attracts women with ease.
But...it is also a small test. In fact, many men might apologize and say,
"But no, It's not like that."
Instead, the only thing to do is to smile and not continue the conversation.
23. SHE MAKES EXCUSES TO BE CLOSE YOU OR TO BE ALONE WITH YOU
This can happen in a thousand ways.
Regarding being close to you: if you are in a group for example,
she may go out of her way to sitting next to you.
Regarding being alone with you, on the other hand: for example, you are in a bar and you say "I'm going to get a drink," she may say "I'll come too" so she can be with you without others being there.
24. WHEN SHE MUST GO, COME TO YOU TO TELL YOU
If you feel that she is expecting something from you at that moment, it is the time to take the step and maybe ask for her number (if you don't have it yet).
25. WHEN SHE SEES YOU GOING AWAY, SHE ASKS YOU WHERE YOU'RE GOING
Maybe you're leaving without saying goodbye and so,she may ask you
"Where are you going?"
if she's interested this means "But how? You run away without telling me anything! When am I going to see you again? π
" THE LIST OF "DON'T"
As explained above, there are some things that,she doesn't, those can be a signals.
Let's look at them...
1. SHE DOESN'T FOLLOW HER FRIENDS IF THEY GO AWAY FOR A MOMENT
You are in a group with other people who are more her friends than yours, and for whatever reason her friends go away for a moment (maybe they go to get a drink).
If she stays there with you, that is a sign of interest.
2. SHE DOESN'T SAY SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND (EVEN IF SHE HAS ONE).
If the conversation ends on the topic and she does not say she has a boyfriend,that is a very good signal that she is sending to you.
3. SHE DOES NOT GET AWAY FROM YOU IF YOU GET CLOSE TO HER
Interpersonal space is very important for people, especially when you know just a little about a person.
We allow to decrease the space between us and other people
with whom we are familiar and those we like.
You can therefore do a test, get a little closer than you should and see what she does.
If she doesn't step back for a moment to recreate the interpersonal space, that is a signal.
4. SHE DOESN'T RESIST WHEN THINGS GET MORE SENSUAL
This is very simple. When, for example, you look at her in a certain way, or get close to her face, etc., etc., and she doesn't resist, that is the time for the first kiss: go and strike π
5. NO RESISTANCE WHEN YOU PROPOSE TO MOVE TOGETHER
Imagine the scene: it's you and her with other people. At some point you say to her,
"Let's go get something to drink."
If you've known each other for a short time and she doesn't resist,
it means that maybe she's interested in you.
VARIOUS SITUATIONS
Okay, always keeping in mind the signs we have seen so far,
let's go over various situations that could happen to you.
ENGAGED GIRL - MARRIED WOMAN
Are you wondering how to understand if an engaged girl likes you?
There are two differences from other women.
First, she will tend to send indicators of interest less conspicuous than other women, this is because she does not want anyone to notice that she likes you.
Consequently, your observational instincts will have to be sharper than usual.
Second, many engaged girls send out signals that are not real just to seek attention.
Yes, you got it right, they do it just because they like getting attention from other men.
Later in the article I will explain more about the concept of attention-seeking.
GIRL YOU DON'T KNOW
Are you trying to figure out if there is interest from a girl you don't know, whom you have never talked to and maybe see her around?
I'll get right to the point: you shouldn't ask that question, you should approach her and try to win her over.
Of course, because you would now want to know in advance whether she likes you or not, so you can avoid rejection...
but what are you a sissy?
Are you afraid of a woman's rejection?! π
But...do you know what women want?
They want a man who is committed to what he wants.
Go to her and be a man, approaching is the only way to win a girl you don't know.
MESSAGES - WHATSAPP AND FACEBOOK / DATING AND CHAT SITES
Understanding the signals in via chat and texting (or on dating sites) is obviously just a matter of verbal language, because you are not in front of her.
The principle is very simple: does she follow the rhythm of the conversation,
is she investing in the conversation,or is it just you leading her on?
IF SHE IS SHY
Some girls are more shy than others (maybe they look like they are being difficult but they are really just shy), and unfortunately they are the ones who send the least signals.
The things to do are not to push too hard and don't expect big signals.
Also consider that usually the older a woman is, the less you will see that shyness will stop her from getting her point across, then of course it depends from woman to woman.
IN SCHOOL - UNIVERSITY
Occasionally in the comments we get asked "How can I tell if a girl likes me in school/college!!!?"
The question always makes me smile, as if these places were a parallel universe where different rules to apply. π
Obviously this is not the case, the signals are always those, keeping in mind that if you don't know the girl you are interested in, you have to approach her and not wait for a miracle to happen. π
IF SHE IS A WORK COLLEGE
Is there a work colleague you like and you want to know if she is interested in you?
The signs are always there but dampened by the fact that she may not want other colleagues to understand her interest in you.
The advice is to try secluding yourself alone with her, perhaps on your coffee break, and see how she behaves.
IMPORTANT CONSIDERATIONS ON INTEREST SIGNS
To finish, let's look together at some important considerations.
SIGNS HAVE TO BE READ TOGETHER
What do I mean?
First of all, a basic rule is to keep in mind that you should look not at the individual behavior
but at the whole.
For example, if a girl touches her hair and does nothing else, it probably doesn't mean anything; if, on the other hand, she touches her hair and sends other signals, it may mean that there is interest.
SIGNALS HAVE TO BE READ IN THEIR CONTEXT
Every context is different, every situation is different, for example, a woman can be very open in a disco and much less so in a more normal context, such as in the gym, at work, in everyday life in short.
You could give a thousand other examples...
If it's crazy hot and she keeps moving her hair it's probably not because she likes you,
it's because her hair is hot.
If you are in a group of people at a club and fatality at some point everyone is busy talking to others and you are close by, maybe she asks you to go get a drink with her just because you were talking, she didn't want to interrupt the conversation with you or even the conversation that others were having.
If you see that she is very open with everyone, maybe what she is sending are not signals, it is simply her normal behavior.
If you still approach a woman and she doesn't even respond to you, backs away and touches her hair, that is not a signal of interest okay?π
In short: use common sense.
DON'T BE A DETECTIVE
Don't persistently look for female seduction signals, you are not a detective π
If you were always obsessively looking for signals you might end up with a mentality of scarcity and seeking approval in women, the exact opposite of the proper mentality of the real man.
Signals should therefore only be noticed when they occur, that's all.
DON'T GET BLIND WITH ADVANCED READING OF FEMALE BODY LANGUAGE
After reading the list above, some men start to make a mistake: they start to inquire about all the possible ways to read female body language.
And they study, and study, and study, thinking they have the superpower to understand women, looking at every single microsignal and giving it a meaning it doesn't have:
- "She pointed her knee toward you...she loves me!" π
- "She pointed one foot outward...she doesn't like me" π
There you go, stay light years away from these bullishits:
you don't need them,and you don't focus on the most important things.
IF SHE'S ONLY LOOKING FOR ATTENTION
Women like attention, it makes them feel specials.
That's why they may occasionally send fake interest signals, out of sheer need for attention.
What to do if you can't tell if she really likes you or is just looking for attention from you?
Very simple: act, try, and see how she responds to you.
If she backs off, it means she was only looking for attention, if she's into it,well...you know what to do π
IF SHE IS A FRIEND
Let's end with the damn friendship zone.
Obviously the signs written above apply to girls you are not super-friends with.
In a friendship you make gestures that might normally be mistaken as true signs of mutual attraction, but which really just aren't!
So don't get into absurd mental jerks about your friend; in fact, read the article on how not to end up in the friendship zone.
IF YOU WANT TO RECONQUER YOUR EX
If you are trying to win back your ex-girlfriend, know that these signals are not for you.
Why?
Because the situation is way more complex than what we have described above, so if you follow these signals you risk misunderstanding what she is doing.
What I advise you to do is to follow your instincts more, for the simple fact that since you have been together, you are the person who knows her best, and especially who knows her signals of interest best.
That's all for today, see you next time.
ο»ΏSteve