Today let's talk about sexual foreplay and petting-that is, how to have sex.
Okay... I admit that the beginning of this article is a bit deliberately provocative, in fact you might be thinking,
"Sorry I'm confused...Do you want to talk to me about how to do foreplay and petting with a woman or how to have sex?"
It is very important that I clarify this concept in fact we are talking about the same thing...
Yes I know probably if I had you in front of me I would see an expression like this:
"?!?..."
or asking me something like...
"Okay,now tell me who your pusher is"
No pusher my dear friend and pussy lover...
In fact we men tend to consider foreplay and sex two detached things while the woman makes no such distinction.
For her, sex is all in one.
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This means that in order to become a Sex God, you have to get this purely male distinction out of your head.
Foreplay is FUNDAMENTAL for sex (and also for special orgasms such as squirting).
So in today's article we're going to look at:
The difference between sexual foreplay from a man's and woman's point of view
- What is and how to do petting
- Petting and risks to your health
- The number 1 rule on how to do foreplay and petting
- 13 techniques to get her already "hot" in your bedroom
- 20 techniques to improve your foreplay with a woman and drive her crazy
So we're going to look at a real step-by-step guide on how to do foreplay for her.
Read this article very carefully because, as you are about to find out, this is where it all starts and getting this step wrong can compromise her overall level of pleasure with you.
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The difference between sexual foreplay from a man's and woman's point of view
I'll make it really short for you to explain the difference between how most men see this and how women see it.
Male sexual foreplay = two licks on his neck like when you lick an ice cream and try to throw your dick right in.
Female sexual foreplay = the antechamber to sex, absolutely necessary to loosen her up, let her go and promote better and more intense orgasms.
This means that if you're one of those men who tend to do the bare minimum....
You'd better reconsider or you run the very real risk that she'll find someone less lazy than you.
When it comes to having sex knowing what to do during foreplay is really like knowing how to start a fire in the kitchen.
If you don't know how to do it, you're eating cold-or at best you're getting microwaved crap.
So learn how to pleasure a woman during sex from the very first moment.
Now I know you'd like to immediately "dunk the cookie and never mention it again," but if you really want to make your woman or women touch the sky with one finger, that's not how it works. You simply have to accept that fact.
It's kind of like when you walk into a martial arts gym and want to learn how to do the flying kicks you saw on TV without first learning how to stand on guard.
That would be cool. I agree with you but ... that's simply not how it works.
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The interesting thing though is that, out there, most of the men who don't follow this Blog think exactly like you, which means that you will be able to get her to reach a level of arousal during intercourse that other men are not able to give her.
So if you came to this site animated by the virtuous question,
"How do women like to make love?"
Because you want to give her pleasure and be better than the other men out there (your competition) you have landed on the right article because here we start with the basics and that is:
- How to arouse a woman
- What foreplay consists of that women like
- How to give HER foreplay
Well...
having made these premises I have to make a clarification and that is to explain what Petting is.
What is and how to do Petting
Once upon a time, I must admit out of my ignorance (but I'm sure there are many who think so), I was convinced that Petting was the kind of activity you do with a woman when you are doing heavy foreplay but, since it's probably the first time she's come to your house, she's not yet ready to have her pants unzipped.
So, just to be clear, that annoying situation where you bring girls into your home but ... either because it happened too fast, or because there wasn't enough connection or trust built up ... or whatever ... some blocks has been created that doesn't allow you to find yourself on your bed with women with nothing on ...
That is, my idea of Petting was something that could be summed up with:
- Strong state of arousal from both of us
- Preliminary from the waist up
Well... Let me give you two news..one good and one better.
Petting is something different and when you become a Sex God you no longer find yourself in this kind of situation because you are able to bring her to a state of arousal and immersion in the relationship for which sex is nothing more than a natural consequence ( since that's all you care about :-)...you will find yourself in your room with women with nothing on...absolutely nothing...and ready to give you her pussy.
So let's get some clarity on what petting really is and how to do foreplay and petting in practice.
Petting is nothing more than stimulating each other's boobs, breasts, and sex organs with your hands or mouth while kissing.
If you are interested in a bit of Sex History the term originated in the United States around the 1940s from the practice of petting a pet. In fact, the pet in those parts is actually called a pet.
And...now that you have satiated your thirst for knowledge...what you should actually know in practice is that Petting means doing all those activities like...touching, massaging, and masturbating each other to orgasm.
So NO...
Petting does not mean turning each other on without taking off your pants but it means doing actual sexual foreplay.
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Now, I would like to remind you that when it comes to how women like to make love, she is unable to distinguish the two activities, foreplay and sex, into two unique logs.
For her, it's all part and parcel of sex
AND...
if after she starts foreplaying with you she doesn't get her pants undone, it means you still have work to do to become a sex god because she's not aroused enough.
Women like making love, much more than men do (although you may still find that hard to believe today).
Stop!
So if today you still happen to find yourself with new partners who resist you at the last minute, it only means that there is still some way to go to improve.
Among other things, doing Petting before penetrating her is a very good idea and is absolutely necessary because:
- It makes her pussy dilate more while she gets aroused
- It makes her wet
- It prepares her to enjoy intercourse for real
Another bit of science...which you'd do well to read because your health depends on it, and next let's see what to do in practice.
Petting and risks to your health
Since I mentioned health I guess you're wondering,
"Can I catch diseases from Petting?"
The risk of catching sexually transmitted diseases by petting is definitely lower than by having sex (if you don't use a condom) but it is not zero.
The number 1 rule on how to do foreplay and Petting
Let's then go and see how to do foreplay well like a Sex God and drive her crazy by making her touch the sky with a finger.
Now though since I am suggesting you go from doing the bare minimum to prolonging your foreplay in lovemaking as much as possible you might ask yourself,
"But so what foreplay do women like?"
The first rule to keep in mind as you know is to prolong foreplay as much as possible.
In fact if you really want to learn how to turn a woman on and make her come the first thing you need to understand is what women like during intercourse.
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And the fact is that foreplay for a woman is considered an integral part of sex so, if you don't take care of this part, the stark truth is that she will not be truly aroused for sex so if you are thinking:
"But I was thinking about a quickie because after I need to watch the Champions League..."
Think again.
In fact, for many women, foreplay is not only an integral part of sex but the most important part.
Many of them cannot even reach orgasm if they are not properly stimulated with foreplay and petting, so it is something fundamental.
I can't stress this point more but the fact is...
Understanding what women like and how to turn a woman on is the most important thing if you want to become a sex god.
Those who are naturally good in bed do not have some unfair competitive advantage over other men or the "gene of how to turn a woman on.
" It is simply a man like you who has naturally intuited some of these processes. And if you're thinking something like,
"Whatever but the ones who are good in bed simply have big ones"
I invite you to rethink this silly and harmful generalization you've put in your head by watching porn probably.
In fact, even before I learned what I know today, I repeatedly heard the same women say,
"the important thing is not so much how big he has it but how he uses it"
And as it happened to me it certainly happened to you so
don't self-sabotage yourself with fake excuses.
So let's see how to extend foreplay and petting in the right way.
But not only that...pay close attention because usually in the articles I go more technical while here I really give you a guide on everything you need to do even before you take her into the bedroom properly aroused.
Next we are going to go over a whole series of tips on sexual foreplay. In fact now we're going to go over...
13 techniques to get her already "hot" in your bedroom ready for foreplay and Petting
Before to have sex it is always a great idea to get the woman in a proper state of mind and get her properly horny.
You have to understand that we men are always or almost ready to use mind women need to let go. What women like and what men like and how to get turned on are all things that work differently between the two sexes, and understanding these differences gets you light years ahead in becoming a sex god.
Well..let's get going.
1.Focus on the emotional part
What you need to do is make the whole experience in general exciting for her and...this work starts even before you are in the bedroom.
You might be tempted to skip this part of the article and move on to the part where I talk about how to do foreplay and Petting from a technical point of view thinking something like,
"Yeah whatever but I just want to know where and how to put my hands"
If you thought something like that think again because you are not dealing with a car engine.
In fact we men are inclined to rationalize everything into patterns that are understandable to us and so we see an evening of sex as something like this:
- Date
- Take her home
- Preliminary
- Sex
- Escape🙂
But the point of the matter is that you by viewing it this way are analyzing it from a purely male rational point of view. Women, on the other hand, think emotionally.
2.A playful message
The nature of the message is hard to say.
Difficult in the sense that I cannot know what level of the relationship you are at with the girl in question, and so it is also difficult to tell you what you might write to her.
The point, however, is that you want to spice things up right away, even before you see each other.
This means that if it's a girl you met and kissed at a nightclub and need to see for your first date it could be something like,
"After kissing you the other night I'm definitely ready for round two...see you later"
Or
if you've already had sex with her,
"I know you're in the office and I shouldn't distract you but..."right now I'd like to fuck you..."
For example, when I have sex with a girl I plan to see again, I openly tell her that I now own her pussy, and since she has been enjoying it like crazy, she is quite willing to play along.
So before our meetings I give her tasks like sending me a selfie of her touching herself and telling her that she will get a reward in return.
So as you can see it's really hard to give you a one-size-fits-all message.
It really depends on where you are in your relationship with her but I'm sure you get the idea.
3.Start teasing her even before
Women love to be teased so start doing it even before you bring her into the bedroom.
This already gets her in the right mood of arousal and lets her know that you are a man who knows what he is doing.
Remember that there will be times when she will actively engage in sex with you but this is not how it has to work in normalcy because you are the man and therefore you are the one who has to lead her into the bedroom.
Teasing her in advance is a great way to create this outcome and below we go through a whole series of ways to do this during your dates before you end up in the bedroom.
This of course applies if she does not come directly to your house or you do not go to her house.
4.Make playful sexual allusions right now
Making sexual allusions during your dates spices them up and sets her up to get into a perfect state of mind for foreplay and petting.
When I talk to you about making sexual allusions, I am not referring to things like,
"Do you like sausage?"
That kind of junk is left for laughs in the shower at the gym.
But if you want to get her into the right emotional state for her to be well prepared for foreplay forget them with women.
When I talk to you about sexual allusions I am referring to letting her know that you want to make the atmosphere spicy and exciting.
Here again it is difficult to tell you what to do or say because the range of situations and moments in the relationship with a woman is so wide that it is impossible to dismiss the topic with a done sentence.
However, let her know why you are there and what you are going to do.
In an elegant way mind you...
Whether you're talking about a kiss or ripping her clothes off before sex.
5.Build sexual tension
During your encounters build sexual tension even before you touch her in the bedroom.
This can really be done in a very wide variety of ways ranging from the way you look into her eyes or look at her lips, to the way you create "involuntary" physical contact with her, to picking her up and slamming her against the wall in the middle of the street (this is just to arouse her...for the rest wait until you are in the bedroom...
I don't want you to write me a comment at the bottom of the article saying I got you arrested :-)).
Again, try to calibrate your actions according to the moment in the relationship when you are with the girl.
Most importantly...
6.Keep taking two steps forward and one step back
What does this mean?
It means that you basically want to build sexual tension and then stop.
This makes her more aroused, eager for you, and to change the location of your evening to something more intimate ;-).
Let's see how to do this in practice....
Here are a few examples below:
- Grab her kiss her and then stop, kiss her again after a while and then stop, and keep going like this
- Kiss her but don't touch her boobs
- Touch her boobs but don't touch her down there
Now maybe you, however, are thinking,
"I'm sorry am I reading this right?Are you talking to me about touching her boobs and touching her down there on a date?"
Exactly. But with the premises that I'm going to make now.
Obviously this is about using common sense.
Don't get me wrong these are things I have done even on very first dates with girls but if you are not yet experienced in these kinds of situations maybe start trying them with a girl you have been seeing for longer.
Whatever your relationship is, though, the rule of common sense applies.
When it comes to touching her boobs and touching her down there (from outside her jeans or skirt or directly from inside) you have to evaluate the context you are in.
Just to give you an example if I am in a restaurant with a woman with whom I am in an open relationship or relationship and the table is covered by a tablecloth I have no problem touching her down there...whereas in such a situation when I say touch her boobs I am simply talking to you about seemingly involuntary movements that only she and I can notice.
As you can imagine the situation is very different if we are in the car.
And it is different from case to case if I am on a very first date depending on how she reacts in general and how wet she is.
But once she is a partner of yours (more or less casual that she is) these are all things you should do to for some foreplay, some petting, and some mind-blowing sex.
And don't be discouraged if at first the girl seems shy and chastened. You'll notice that once you convert them to your sex partners with the techniques you learn on this site you start hearing phrases like,
"When I'm with you it's like I lose control and I'm no longer in control of my body..."
Just to give you an example there was this girl who initially did not want to kiss in public.
Within not even a month I was with my hand in her pussy at the station telling her that she was a very naughty girl, what her colleagues would think of her and that I had to take her to another place.
She didn't have any kind of protest reaction but even if she had done so when I approached down there I would simply tell her,
"Shhh!That's my stuff down there"
And I'm sure she would have agreed because that's what happens when you make them touch the sky with one finger in bed.
They just start acting and treating you differently.
7.Touch her down there at dinner
Here clearly depends on the length of the relationship but if the "timing" allows this is a must-have weapon in your pre-preliminaries.
Even better if you apply it,as the waiter arrives to ask for your orders.
When I know I'm having dinner with one of my partners for example,what I do, is introduce her of what's going to happen is to send her during the afternoon...
A message that sounds something like this,
"Please don't embarrass me this evening while we're ordering"
To which she usually responds with,
"What do you mean?"
Or something like that, and I reply,
"You'll see..."
A variation of this technique is to talk to her about something absolutely serious in the car while you start sticking a finger in her pussy...
But...
8.Don't exaggerate
The purpose of these techniques is not to finger her, make her cum and go.
The purpose is to get her aroused and warmed up for what comes next.
So don't abuse what I explained in the points above but just use these techniques to make her more aroused and horny for sex.
And not only that.
Behaving in this way makes you different from most men she will meet in her life who are just:
- A boring evening
- Two strokes given badly
- With shitty foreplay
- And good night.
That said, however, remember not to overdo it during the pre-evening.
You only need it to build sexual tension for sex.
What is important for you to understand is that we men are like switches.
If we're in the mood for sex and she's into it...."Ready, set, go"....
and we're probably also very willing to skip the ready and go.
Women, on the other hand, are like volume controllers you find on a stereo, so you have to warm them up slowly to boil them under the bed sheets.
This brings us to 3 types of situations that you need to set up during your evenings:
9.Setting up emotions and physical escalation in advance
As you can see everything we have seen so is good only to bring her into an emotional state that she does not experience with other men and set her up for physical escalation for foreplay.
10.Be unpredictable
This taking two steps forward and one step back serves to set an aura of sexuality in your evenings and to be unpredictable.
Women love this kind of unpredictability.
In fact, what you have to get her to think about is
11.but what is going on?
She literally has to think over the course of the evening
"But what's going on?"
"Is he going to bang me? Is he not going to bang me?"
You see now why I explain that these are key parts of foreplay and Petting and why I explain that these things don't just start in the bedroom.
12.Compliments
This is a small caution to have with her.
Compliment something about her that you really like.
And when I say really, I mean really.
A sincere compliment is about letting her go and putting her at ease, as well as feeling appreciated but it is important that you have two cautions in doing so.
The first, and I cannot stress this concept more, is that the compliment must be sincere.
Women are extremely good at figuring out if you are being sincere, so if you don't have something to compliment her sincerely about it is best if you skip this step.
The second thing you need to do is not overdo the compliments.
In this case, too much is too much.
Just enough to make her feel more relaxed.
13.Now you take control
After you've done everything we've said to each other as you know she might be confused.
That is, she should be thinking,
"Is she going to fuck me or not?"
This is especially if you are with a partner who sees you behaving this way for the first or one of the first times.
Don't misunderstand me when I say confused. She knows very well what is going on :-).
The fact that she knows, however, does not mean that she is used to this kind of situation with other men and therefore does not know exactly what to do.
This means that you have to be the one to take the lead and take her to a more secluded place to continue what you started.
Well ... let's go and see what happens next and that is....
Sexual foreplay: everything you need to know (20 techniques to go from 0 to 100)
Now that you've taken her into the bedroom... let's go through the practicalities of what to do during foreplay and petting and how to touch a girl.
1.Build sexual tension
Okay I know.
You are thinking, "Again? I just want to know how to do foreplay" Yes ... again ... because if you've done everything right at this point she should also be more than aroused and ready to start.
You instead now slow down and...
2.Set the atmosphere
When I refer to setting the atmosphere, I hope it's obvious, I'm not talking about:
- making dirty socks and underwear disappear
- kicking porn magazines under the bed in the hope that she won't see them
- and things of that nature.
I am relying on your common sense, which should have already told you that these things should have been done in advance.
When I talk about setting the mood I am referring to making her comfortable while you light incense and music.
In fact, remember that for her sex is a multi-sensory experience and foreplay in lovemaking is no different since it is an integral part of sex for her.
3.Kiss her
Women love to be kissed so kiss her for a long time.
Even one or two hours is not too much in this case.
"One or two hours?
Are you crazy?"
No that's exactly what I'm telling you.
4.Now kiss her by grabbing her face
Do the above but in this case also gently grab her face.
Doing so increases the sexual tension and creates more intimacy and fun for her.
Really don't underestimate the kiss.
Many women can't cum without it.
5.Establish a strong eye-contact
While doing foreplay and Petting with her maintain, whenever possible, a strong eye-contact.
Doing this builds intimacy and dominance so abuse this technique as well.
6. Kiss her neck
The neck is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones of the body so never underestimate giving proper attention to this area of her body but don't overdo it.
7.Caress her hair and head
Now go back up a little and caress her hair and head while you still kiss her and continue to maintain a strong eye-contact with her.
8.Start undressing her slowly
Now it is time to undress her.
Undress and undress her slowly as you continue to kiss, caress and arouse each other.
Depending on the type of relationship and emotional leverage you want to use with this girl you can undress her in a more or less "violent" way.
9.Compliment her
Remember that even the most beautiful woman in the world may have insecurities about her naked body.
So compliment what you really like about her so that you can make her feel comfortable with her body.
10.Caress her whole body
Caress her whole body with light caresses in a light and sensual way.
Again, take as much time as you need.
11.Reach down to her toes
Now suck her toe thumb and come back up...
12.Play with Her Boobs
Now that you have taken care of her whole body go back up and start playing with her boobs.
So take all the time you need and don't be rushed.
Start at the lower part and draw circles with your hands until you get to her nipples and now suck on them.
What I prefer in this case is to do it while you are both sitting on the knees.
This way while you gently suck her nipples you can look into her eyes from the bottom up and continue to build connection.
13.Give her a massage
Now turn her over and massage along her back as well.
Massage and caress her with your hands.
14.Tease her
Tease her I know you might be thinking now,
"Do I really have to stay here still teasing her?Haven't I done enough already?"
The answer is that when I was writing to you that foreplay for her is an integral part of sex and the longer it lasts, even one or two hours, the better is...
So tease it out, really tease it out and keep creating as much tension as you can because that's the way it has to be done.
Now though, don't get me wrong and before you say,
"Yeah whatever, I get it...look I'll make myself a priest and we won't talk about it anymore"
Keep in mind that this is what you have to do if you want to do things properly, become a God in bed and make her touch the sky with one finger but...
you don't have to every time to follow this whole ritual in full.
Literally anything you do, if you follow what you learn on this site, you are better than her other options.
Don't make this an excuse to get lazy.
15.Take charge of her pleasure
Find out which areas turn her on the most and devote yourself primarily to stimulating these areas.
To do this... Ask (remember there is no problem asking her what she likes as long as you do it in a dominant way) AND learn to read her body language.
In fact while you are in bed her body will constantly send you signals while she is enjoying more.
When you get these signals, don't stop.
16.Now some healthy selfishness
Now tell her what you want.
Don't be ashamed to express your desires to her in bed and explain what you like most and
how she should stimulate you.
For example, tell her if you prefer her to kiss you on the neck or play with your nipples..
if you were thinking about a blowjob instead, wait.
We're not there yet.
17.Rub with her
Get on top of her, kind of like during missionary and start rubbing again with your panties on.
At this point she is definitely wet, but as you do so you continue to drive up her sexual tension and excitement.
18.Give her a slap on the ass
Let her know who is in charge with a slap on the ass but be sure...don't overdo it.
It should neither be a sissy slap nor make her feel pain.
19.Talk dirty to her
Remember how this is so important!
20.Rub her with her panties on
Now rub her pussy with your hand but while she still has her panties on.
Needless to say, at this point as you rub her through her panties...she must already be wet.
If not, there is something definitely wrong with the process :-).
Absolutely do not underestimate the part about the 7 emotional levers!
As you know foreplay and petting for her is an integral part of sex so don't forget, even during this phase, to use the seven emotional levers I tell you about if this site.
Now go and practice.
Get her wet in mind and body.
Steve