When asked, “Who are you?” What is your default answer?
Do you respond with the title of your job, such as doctor, speaker, philanthropist, and so on?
While there is nothing wrong with describing yourself based on what you do, I had cause to think otherwise when I started questioning everything in my search to find the truth.
The following distractions prevented me from making progress at first
- The desire to get the latest title and become affiliated with a particular association
- What I was good at, how I felt, and what others called me
- The sum of all my roles and accomplishments
The question that jolted me back on the path of truth was
What is the difference between identity and activity?
Think about it.
My thoughts led me to these:
- I was intentionally designed and created for one purpose, by God, my spiritual father
- I can go to my father and find out His plan for me.
Alright, what difference does this information make?
I think it changed everything starting with the state of my mind. The chaos in my mind that felt like a raging storm stopped, and the noises faded away, and I became strong enough to collect my thoughts, more like tidying up my house and finding peace. Ironic, given that “Peace” is my official name, yet for years, it had been elusive to me.
Truth is the foundation of self-discovery
Let me explain how I define truth because it will shed more light on this topic.
- Truth is not just something you say; it’s something you bear witness to.
- Truth is not a mere word; it’s an experience.
The path to truth is a progression:
- Knowledge: Another person's truth documented for you.
- Wisdom: Correct application or observation of that knowledge through lived experiences.
- Truth: Your testimony, born out of personal experience.
For me, the journey to discovering who I am began with knowledge: a single statement spoken on a podcast by someone I respect:
“They should ask God to tell them who they are.”
This phrase stuck with me, but I didn’t fully understand how to apply it. How do you hear directly from God?
I didn’t want to settle for a vague, religious answer like “just pray.” I had prayed before but rarely felt a tangible response. So, I decided to explore further.
Connecting with My Creator
You can start from somewhere to connect with your creator. These three simple questions were my starting point.
- Do I believe in God? Yes.
- Do I believe God created me in His image? Yes.
- How do I connect with my Creator? I searched the bible to see what Jesus had to say about this, and this is what I found.
Rev 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hears my voice, and open the door, I will come into him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
I was willing to let God in but I did not hear any voice. So I kept searching the scriptures.
John 15:7 If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.
"Why is Jesus comparing himself with his word here?"
"You know what? Let me focus on the words of Jesus"
That was how I started reading the bible again with a curious mind, slower than I read it in the past. And it felt like I was reading an entirely new book.
After reading the bible, I will take time to reflect on what I read, as if listening for an interpretation. Then It started happening - I began to get feedback, at first it was faint. I could hear my thoughts interpreting the bible in a way that applies to me. This was so exciting, and as I studied further, started taking notes, and my thoughts became clearer, I realized I was being taught by the Holy Spirit.
John 16:13 But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.
This awareness emboldened me to ask this question. "God, who did you create me to be" After I asked, I listened. I was attentive to finding clues and rejected anything like a distraction.
I began to notice the following:
- Relevant content began appearing on my social media feed, offering insights I needed.
- I started dreaming at night, something that rarely happened before.
- I resumed daily introspection, and my thoughts became clearer, sharper, and insightful.
I became more intentional about thinking things through, then I heard my thoughts loud and clear with information that was completely new to me. These thoughts predicted things that later came to pass.
It made me study thoughts as a concept, and I realized they are spiritual communication, my perception developed also as I got more spiritually intelligent.
My Struggle with Gender Dysphoria
At one point in my life, I struggled with gender dysphoria. As a young girl, I wished I were a boy. I empathize deeply with anyone experiencing such confusion because I remember how it felt to be at odds with my nature. I even made bold declarations: I would neither marry nor have children.
Yet, marriage and motherhood became instrumental in helping me discover who I am. They taught me lessons about life and business that I couldn’t have learned otherwise.
Discovering My Purpose
Through this process, I understood that 'my being' is defined by two core aspects:
1. I am a female human
Since birth, my body has held the potential to create life. Realizing this amazing fact about me made the thought of becoming a mom grow inside me. Embracing my natural Identity as a female, helped me find fulfillment in the various stages of life, from being a daughter to a wife and now a mother. Each new stage uncovered a new understanding of who I was created to be.
2. I am a spiritual being, created in God’s image.
I understood that my being is based on who the creator made, A spirit being that exists on earth as a female man. So I began to examine what my experience as a wife and mom taught me about life and business.
I thought about how my dreams and aspirations have evolved. How when I get what I wished for, It does not feel as wonderful as I had envisioned, or when I am closer to my dream and see it up close, I dream another one that is distant and more compelling, thereby making the one that is closer pale in comparison.
This is a struggle I believe you could relate to. But getting rid of that struggle and lack of fulfillment happened when I obeyed a direction in my spirit to forget about my dreams and serve the people I encountered.
When I started doing it, the insight became clearer. This was what I heard "Help someone like you, with the kind of dream you have, achieve theirs"
As I explored what it means to reflect God’s nature, I found my purpose:
To help others achieve the dreams I once had for myself.
This discovery led me to an essential principle:
Love your neighbor as yourself.
I realized that my dreams weren’t just about me. They were stepping stones, helping me learn the ropes to fulfill my purpose. By helping others achieve what I once desired, I found fulfillment.
My Role in the Family Business
Now I truly believe and relate with God as the Father and me as His daughter. Everything I have experienced has prepared me to participate in the family business. My role is to contribute to what God is already doing in the world. Instead of asking God to fulfill my dreams, I’ve learned to align myself with His purpose.
Discovering who I am led me to choose my current career path - creative entrepreneurship. As the co-founder of a company that helps ambitious individuals turn their ideas into viable businesses, Like a purpose midwife. My past experiences, my education degree, failed and successful business ventures, and even motherhood, have all prepared me for this current role, which could change as the need arises.
The Journey Continues
Who I am isn’t defined by titles or accomplishments but by my being: both physical and spiritual. My journey of discovery is ongoing, and with each step, I uncover more about myself and my purpose.
If you’re searching for who you are, start by asking your Creator.
Ask God, listen, and trust the process. You might just discover something far greater than you ever imagined.
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