Difficult people are everywhere.
Theodore Roosevelt once said, ‘The single most important
ingredient of success is knowing how to get along with
Of course, Roosevelt never met that difficult person at
work that you have to deal with every day, did he? And
he certainly didn’t have your in-laws.
When people are nice to you, you can’t help but feel good
and be nice back. But when they’re difficult, you’re bound
to be unhappy about it and react badly.
Why do other people get to us so easily?
The reason our happiness and well-being depend so much
on our relationships is because humans are social beings;
we seek and enjoy the company of other people, in particular
other people who are easy to get along with and
whom we like.
In fact, most of us would rather experience an unpleasant
event – watch our team lose, for example – with someone
who shares our negative opinions about the team than
experience a pleasant event – watching our team win – in
the company of those who are disagreeable and difficult.