RELATING ON PURPOSE: BOUNDARIES, AGREEMENTS, AND LIBERATORY LOVE

Most of us never learned how to build intentional relationships. Instead, we inherited a set of expectations about what love should look like, how partners should behave, and what it means to be committed or secure. We absorbed rules without realizing they were rules. We learned to see control as care, assumptions as truth, and compliance as trust.

This book is an invitation to slow down and look more closely.

Whether you’re in a monogamous or non-monogamous relationship, or somewhere in between, this is a space to explore how we build safety, connection, and clarity without defaulting to control. Together, we’ll unpack the difference between rules, boundaries, and agreements, and explore what becomes possible when relationships are grounded in shared values and ongoing consent.

What you will read doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships. These dynamics show up everywhere: with friends, family, chosen kin, and community. As we come to understand the unconscious rules we've carried, we begin to move from assumption to alignment, from fear to clarity, from control to trust.

There is no perfect script for how to relate. But there is a deep, liberatory practice in learning how to do it with care, curiosity, and consent.