Bullied As An Adult: Understand Toxic People And Learn How To Stop Them From Walking Over You
Let me tell you a short story.
It’s a fictional story with archetypical and mythological ideas.
Well, most of you already know about it, but I am going to retell it and represent it from a different perspective.
There was a boy who was an outcast. He never fit in. Boys his age never seemed to relate to him, and neither did he.
He lost his real parents. His new family which “took care of him” treated him like he was a piece of shit.
They were toxic people.
They did what toxic people do: they treated our boy like he was worthless. Mockery, belittlement, manipulation, and abuse were attacking our hero like stubborn villains.
But there was something about our boy. He was different, but in a peculiar way that made him unique.
He was a wizard. A son of two great wizards.
Those two great wizards were killed by an evil villain who was so terrifying that people can’t even utter his name.
Our boy somehow survived being killed like his parents. But this evil man left a piece of him in this boy: a scar.
This boy would grow up and own his own truth and be who he is. He would be the man who can stand up against this malevolent, horrible man. He would be the one who not only survives that but also he becomes the one who defies that evil by which he was touched.
He has got a piece of evil within him. The snake is there, and it’s a part of him.
He’s not naïve; he is not harmless, neither is he peaceful. He was touched by evil and he knows evil; he can fight it because of that.
As Jordan Peterson describes this, “The reason Harry Potter can withstand Voldermort is that he’s got a piece of him. The way to keep the psychopath at bay is to develop your own inner psychopath so that you know one when you see one."
You know how the rest of the story unfolds.
And oh, for his family, he didn’t, like, you know, kill them. He simply becomes a higher status person who isn't fazed by them anymore. And they were powerless against from that point.
How do you stop evil from screwing up your life?
You come close to it.
You touch it. And you let it touch you.
You learn how to recognize it.
You understand it. You develop it as a means of protecting yourself.
Good is useless if it’s weaker than bad. It has to be as strong as bad is. It has to dig deeper to understand it. And then it has to use its power to stop it.Being nice doesn’t defy evil. Being “good” does.But being that good doesn’t mean avoiding evil.
It means learning enough about it that you are capable of recognizing it and defying it.
It means developing enough of yourself that evil won’t be able to harm you anymore.
And the same goes for the toxic people who bully you and make your life worse.
Stop them and gain self-respect
This book will help you become your own Harry Potter in your own life.
Chances are, there are toxic people in your life (Voldermorts!) who are making you unbelievably sick and mad. And they subtly make you feel weak for being helpless against their toxic behavior.
It doesn’t have to be this way.But it can be this way. In this case, the price is your self-respect and sanity.
Having people walk over you and mistreat you isn’t pleasant. It makes you grow resentful. And with enough resentfulness, you may explode in delinquent ways.
And I don’t have to state the obvious. The world is not a beautiful place. And without understanding toxicity and evil people, those toxic people can have more power and status than you and end up doing more harm to you and to more people.
(While the title of the book says “adult”, teenagers can benefit from it as well. For children, I believe, it's on us adults to learn how to stand up for own selves and fight evil, then showing how important that is.)
How this book is different
I have been there.
That gives me the ability of empathizing and understanding.
Next, the information that is presented is not a joke. It’s what really has helped me and what has been proven to be useful in social settings and social hierarchies.
Here is a glimpse (those are not necessarily explained one by one, but they are used as base ideas)
- Psychological projection;
- the black-triad theory;
- attachment theory and secure, effective communication methods;
- attachment theory and what marks the insecure behavior;
- some of Jordan Peterson ideas on assertiveness and how it is a part of the psychotherapy training;
- the shadow theory;
- the big 5 theory (mainly: agreeableness vs. disagreeableness);
- sarcasm and humor as defensive and survival mechanisms; and
- social intelligence.
- And more, of course.
The book is short and to the point. No pages for the sake of increasing the number of pages.
It contains 5 chapters.
The first three chapters help you “study evil” and “get touched by it” and “develop your own inner psychopath” as a result of understanding toxic people on a deeper level. Some tips to protect yourself are included.
The last two chapters are not what you might think. They don’t focus on toxic people and how to destroy them. Rather, they focus on you and how you can become a higher status individual.
It builds on the knowledge of the previous chapters but focuses mainly on developing skills and thinking patterns that should lift up your status.
What readers are saying about the book
This book consists of a clear analysis of what makes one an asshole or a charismatic leader. Giving you insight into why and how toxic people get under your skin. Definitely recommend it if you need to take control of your emotional life, instead of being pushed around. Mosab’s experience will truly help you grow more charismatic.– Timon, a social skills coach and founder at Techlecticism.comThis book is one of the best books I have ever read. It discusses a very sensitive problem that we all face in our daily lives directly or indirectly cause we deal with people every day and as this course mentioned not all of those people are good, there are dicks and assholes. So we need to prepare ourselves and learn not to make assholes of ourselves but to defend ourselves. Really, I am surprised by how many toxic people in my life after learning how to know them and how to protect myself from them! It was a turning point in my life. And I hope it will become one for you.– Mohammed KemyaToxic people, bullies, and narcissists are all diseases and this is like surgery to remove them. Well done, Mosab.– ElhuseenAs humans, we meet a lot of toxic people in every turn, but most of the time we decide to ignore them or act like we don’t care about everything they say. But sometimes it hurts us. Many articles tell you how to act and deal with them but this book is different in everything; at first, it gives you psychological look about them and how they think and after that how to handle them in a simple way; it mixes between human development and psychology in a funny way.-Suzan
Here are 8 more benefits you can get
- Stop being a target for bullies and jerks: you will get the chance to grow and become a different person: a person who demands respect.
- Stop going through the scenarios in your head of things you could have said or done: and actually say and do the very things that will make bullies stop and think twice before attacking you again.
- Stop being bullied for being too quiet/ for being too nice/ for being yourself: you don’t have to change who you are and fit a specific social persona to stop being bullied and pissed off by mean people. You can still be who you are and demand respect.
- Become respected socially: this has a lot of benefits. Not only will it scare away bullies, but also it will make you able to choose who you want to spend time with instead of being forced to be with certain people.
- Defusing bullying techniques: I am not fond of tactics, but we do have some tactics in this course that can immediately make you more assertive. In fact, they are only 2 techniques but, once mastered, they are very effective.
- Get over you guilt when it comes to saying, ‘no’ and asserting your boundaries: if you are one of the people who cannot say, ‘no’ then you will suffer a lot because of not being able to reject what you do not like and not being able to assert yourself and needs.
- Project strength without opening your mouth: without saying a word! And no, it is no only about body language.
- Have better emotional connections: Emotional connection is probably one of the best things you can experience as a human being. charisma will get you to the door and help you weed out the wrong people. But to have REAL emotional connections, which is probably the most important part of any human relationship (we are emotional creatures, like it or hate it!), you need more than charisma.
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The number of pages: 75 pages.
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