Auditing Your Dating Patterns

Note: This was previously released as Girl, Read This Before Your Next Date, and has since been updated and expanded.

“The bar is in hell.”

Actually, the bar is in your hands.

For the past decade, I’ve been dedicated to helping women unpack their dating patterns and be more honest with themselves than they’ve ever been so they can get out of their own way. 

Navigating dating, relationships, love, men–this is part of your life as a woman. And despite what a lot of the loud “all men are trash” conversations online will have you believe, there is nothing wrong with wanting a healthy, happy relationship. 

But where I see so many women getting it wrong is the same place I used to once upon a time. Instead of it being part of your life, you make it your whole life, which is why you keep having the same shitty dating experiences and relationships over and over again. 

So let’s audit the dating patterns you’re used to, interrupt them, and do some course-correcting, shall we?

Auditing Your Dating Patterns is based on the same process and frameworks I’ve used in my group sessions—just refined, expanded and now structured in a way you can go through at your own pace. 

You’ll go through twelve chapters, each one created to help you see yourself, and the men you’re used to dating, from a completely different perspective, followed by homework that pushes you to go beyond the conversations you’re probably used to having with your homegirls, your therapist… and yourself.

Now, I’m not one for robbing women of their choices, so I’m very upfront about everything I create for you to consume and work through. That said, I’m also not one for sugarcoating. So if you were looking for something light-hearted that would soothe your ego—this is not that. 

Many, if not all the chapters in this will call you out, then call you in. 

Because inner work isn’t easy, but neither is chasing validation and tying your worth to all these men. The difference is, one will move you forward, the other will keep you running into dead ends. 

Chapters: 

The Woman in Your Mirror 

Your Values

What Are You Really Looking For?

You and Accountability 

Intuition and Self-Trust 

Chemistry and Sex 

Love-Bombing vs Actual Love 

Toxic Fantasies 

Auditing Your Dating Patterns

Dating Boundaries 

Limiting Beliefs

Your Single Seasons