Wired for Alignment - a couples program
Wired for Alignment
A 9-Session Couples Program
Every relationship starts with two people who chose each other. What most couples don't realize is that they also brought two nervous systems, two biographical histories, two sets of schemas, two attachment styles, and two completely different definitions of what love is supposed to feel like — all into the same space, trying to build something together. That is not a problem. That is the material. The question is whether you are going to work with it consciously, or keep running the same loops until one of you runs out of road.
What Wired for Alignment is
Wired for Alignment is a fixed 9-session virtual couples program built on the EMPRYNT™ neuropsychological framework. It is not couples therapy in the traditional sense — it is a structured, clinical methodology that takes both partners through the individual work first, and then the relational work together. Because the most common mistake couples make when they seek help is skipping straight to the relationship — without first understanding what each person is bringing into it. You cannot rewire a dynamic without understanding the two nervous systems creating it. This program does both.
Who this is for
You love each other. You are also stuck in a pattern that neither of you fully understands and neither of you can seem to stop. You have tried communicating better. The communication is not the problem — or at least, not the root of it. You are at a significant transition — parenthood, career change, a move, a loss — and you want to navigate it together rather than let it pull you apart. You are not in crisis. You are in a good relationship that you want to make great — and you are willing to do the work that requires. You have both tried individual therapy and feel ready to bring what you have learned into the relationship itself.
The Structure
3 Individual Sessions — Partner 1
Your own history, your own nervous system baseline, your own attachment imprint, your own schemas and modes. What you are bringing into this relationship from everything that came before it. What you need, how you ask for it, and what happens in your body when you don't get it. This is the work no one else can do for you — and the foundation everything else is built on.
3 Individual Sessions — Partner 2
The same depth of individual work, run in parallel. Same framework, same clinical rigor, same honest excavation. Both partners arrive at the joint sessions having done their own work — which changes everything about the quality of what becomes possible together.
3 Joint Sessions — Both Partners Together
This is where the two individual maps are brought into the same room. The nervous system synchronization between you. The pursue-withdraw dynamics and what is actually driving them. The glass metaphor — understanding each other's emotional capacity and what it means to honor it. Communication and conflict from a neurobiological standpoint. The pillars of interdependence. What conscious partnership actually looks like in the daily, ordinary, sometimes difficult reality of a shared life.
9 virtual sessions · Clinical workbook included · Fixed program
Payment plans available. Reach out to discuss.
What the program is built on
Each session is structured around the EMPRYNT™ Wired for Alignment workbook — a clinical-grade couples workbook that covers attachment neuroscience, nervous system co-regulation, schema modes, emotion regulation, values work, and the full arc from codependence through interdependence. The workbook is yours to keep and return to long after the program ends.
The methodology integrates:
- Polyvagal Theory and nervous system co-regulation
- Schema-Focused Therapy and mode work
- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
- Attachment neuroscience (Schore, Siegel, Bowlby)
- Gottman research on conflict, repair, and bids for connection
- The EMPRYNT™ Biographical Backpack framework
What changes
Couples who complete this program leave with more than better communication skills. They leave with a shared language for what is actually happening between them — neurologically, psychologically, historically — and the tools to work with it rather than against each other.
Specifically:
- You understand your own nervous system and your partner's — and you stop interpreting their responses as personal.
- You can recognize when a schema has been activated — yours or theirs — and respond to what is actually happening rather than the old loop.
- You know what fills your glass and what drains it, and you have the language to communicate both without it becoming a conflict.
- You have a framework for conflict and repair that does not require one of you to win.
- You have made explicit the things that were previously running your relationship implicitly — and that shift, by itself, changes what is possible between you.
A note on fit
This program requires both partners to be willing participants. It is not designed for relationships where there is active abuse, addiction in the acute phase, or one partner who is attending under pressure. If you are unsure whether this program is the right fit for your situation, reach out before booking and we will have an honest conversation about it.
About Dr. Maartje
I am a clinical neuropsychologist with a PhD and certifications in CBT, DBT, EMDR, and Schema-Focused Therapy. I developed the EMPRYNT™ methodology because I kept watching couples work hard in therapy and still not quite get to the root — because the root is not in the argument they are having. It is in the two nervous systems having it.
I work virtually with a limited number of couples at a time. Every program is tailored to the two people in it — the workbook provides the framework, the sessions provide the depth.
My own marriage has taught me as much about this as any textbook. I know what it takes to hold love across the hard passages of a shared life. That knowledge is in the room with us.
— Dr. Maartje
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