'Should' Girl Gone Bad: How My Heart Finally Overruled My Head

This is my story of breaking free from “should”, on turning down the volume of what religion, convention, family, and other external voices told me was right for me. Stepping out of my head and choosing instead to listen to and follow my heart.

The book is not written along a timeline.  Instead, each chapter tells a story about a wakeup call and its subsequent life lesson:

Chapter 1:  Do What You’re Called to Do (Don’t Let Fear, Homesickness or Lack of Planning Stop the Adventure)

Chapter 2:   San Diego, 1989-ish:  Just Because You Can, Doesn’t Mean You Should 

Chapter 3:  Don’t Stay in a Bad Marriage for the Sake of the Kids

And more...

My parents taught us how to get along in the world. What I didn’t learn was how to feel.  Mom & Dad didn’t know anything about emotions, and you can’t teach what you don’t know.  

For years after leaving home, I continued on in emotional ignorance. 

Eventually, after many wake up calls, I tentatively listening to my heart. 

I’ve spent years learning how to feel. Maybe some of my story will help you fast-forward. Following my heart has created a life full of zigzags. But I wouldn’t trade it. 

Follow your heart, my love :)