The First 90 Seconds

By Momo Valenzuela

You didn't get a parent to copy. You're building one anyway.

When your child is on the floor, you need words, fast. The First 90 Seconds gives you 12 pocket scripts for the moments parents most often snap or shut down.

Every moment has three small steps:

• Reset: a ten-second move for you

• Say: short, kind words for your child

• Repair: what to say after, if you lose it

The 12 moments inside:

The Big Tantrum • "I Hate You!" • Bedtime Battles • Hitting and Throwing • The Ignoring • The Morning Rush • Whining and Clinging • Siblings Fighting • The Lie • Dinner Refusal • Screen Time Is Over • When You Go Blank

Also inside:

• A simple 4-part repair guide for after a bad moment

• Save-to-phone cards so the words are there when you're shaking

• A lock screen setup guide for iPhone and Android

• A 7-day start plan

Perfect for parents who never had a parenting model and are building one from scratch, including cycle breakers and parents who yell or go quiet under stress.

Who this is for:

Parents looking for words to use during tantrums, yelling, refusal, sibling conflict, and other difficult moments. Choose a script by the situation you’re facing, rather than your child’s age.

What you get:

• an instant PDF download. Nothing is shipped.

• A parenting tool, not a substitute for professional care.

A little preview of The First 90 Seconds

When emotions run high, finding the words can be hard. These sample pages give you a simple structure: reset yourself, choose what to say, and repair when you’ve yelled.

At the dinner table

When dinner becomes a standoff, start with a breath.

Reset: “I offer. They choose.” Breathe.

Say: “You don’t have to eat it. It’s here if you want it.”

Repair: “Dinner should feel safe. I’m sorry I yelled.”

When your child isn’t telling the truth

Pause and lower your voice before responding.

Say: “It’s okay. Let’s fix it together. You can tell me the truth.”

Repair: “My yelling made it scary. I want you to feel safe.”

Not perfect parenting. A place to start.

You don’t have to get every moment right. A pause, a few clear words, and an honest repair can be your next step.

Get the Parenting Script

Digital guide bundle for words you can turn to in difficult moments.

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