How to Date Any Girl
MAYBE SHE'S THE BARTENDER WITH THE 10,000-WATT SMILE telling dirty jokes to the regulars. Or the platinum-haired singer picking out "Paint It Black" on her guitar.
She's the girl you figure every guy wants—so you wonder if you even have a shot. Thankfully, new research gives us all encouragement. To start with, no matter what you think your "type" of woman is—athletic, outgoing, brainy—it probably won't matter when you meet someone. What is the key? Novelty, says anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D. "It drives up dopamine production in the brain, causing pleasure, excitement, and optimism." One study confirms that boredom predicts lower satisfaction in a marriage.
Even at the start, predictability won't work. So to help you stand out, we consulted top experts and tracked down 11 of the most sought-after kinds of bachelorettes—including two Hollywood stars—to find fresh, original approaches you can use to win over any woman.
Why Her: For starters: spandex, side-by-side workouts, and shared showers. Oh yeah, and better sex. A recent Turkish study found that elite female athletes have better clitoral bloodflow and sexual function than sedentary women do. And you might lose your own gut in the process: Research in the journal Obesity found that befriending people who are fit may help stave off weight gain.
Beware: If you're lapped, you might be dumped. "She's going to work out every day, so she wants to be with somebody who shares her values," says Amy Baltzell, Ed.D., a sports psychologist at Boston University and the author of Living in the Sweet Spot. That means she'll push you but won't coddle you. Look elsewhere for an ego stroke, says Steph Davis, a renowned rock climber and the author of High Infatuation: "Countless relationships have fallen apart because the man couldn't deal with a female athlete's unwillingness to be his cheerleader."
Your Move: Appeal to her vanity. "She'll love hearing how attractive you find her muscles," Baltzell says. "It shows that you understand and value what she's doing."