Some journeys feel blessed from the first step - soft ground, open doors, applause before arrival. And then there are the other journeys. The ones that demand fire. The ones that insist on storms. The ones that test not only your skill, but your soul.
Entrepreneurship, for the woman who leads with vision, is rarely gentle. It is not a polished elevator ride to the top. It is a descent before the ascent. A refining before the revealing. A walk through places that strip illusion, ego, and comfort until only truth remains. And if your path demands that you go through agony, there is only one way to walk through it: like you own the place. This is not arrogance and authority. This is for the businesswoman who has cried in silence and still showed up immaculate. This is for the woman who has faced rejection dressed in resolve. This is for the woman who has been underestimated, delayed, opposed and still refuses to shrink. Agony is not the end of the story. It is often the corridor to your becoming.
Agony Is Not Punishment - It Is Proof You’re Chosen.
Let us redefine the narrative. Going through hell does not mean you failed. It doesn’t mean you took a wrong turn, and it doesn’t mean you are behind. It often means that you are ahead of schedule. You are on time. God’s timing is perfect, and it always happens at the right time. Nevertheless, I know, for us, it always feels like an eternity and never happens at the right time. Besides our thoughts, we can do nothing if we try to rush the situation; every moment in our lives is needed for our future. You’ll thank God in the future for what you went through. Remember… God’s never late, He’s always on time - besides, we don’t understand His timing.
Fire does not come for what is ordinary. Storms do not gather around what is insignificant. Pressure is not assigned randomly - it is permitted where there is potential for power. Entrepreneurship exposes you. It strips the fantasy from ambition and asks a brutal question: Do you believe in this vision when no one is clapping? Agony looks like:
- Launching when the numbers don’t yet match the dream
- Leading when you are still healing
- Building when the resources are thin but the calling is thick
- Standing when it would be easier to disappear
And yet - you stand. That is bravery, not the loud, cinematic kind. The quiet kind that wears heels on broken ground and still walks straight.
1- Walk Like You Own the Place.
There is a way of walking through difficulties that can change their outcome. Two women can face the same fire - one survives it, and the other commands it. The difference is posture. Walking like you own the place does not mean denying fear. It means refusing to let fear set the terms. It means understanding that even in hostile territory, you carry jurisdiction.
You do not ask storms for permission to pass. You do not beg fire to spare you. You walk through knowing that nothing you encounter is greater than what you carry. Ownership is an internal decision before it becomes an external reality. It shows in:
- How do you enter rooms where you are not yet recognised
- How do you speak about your work before it is widely validated
- How do you price your services when others expect you to discount your worth
- How do you dress when circumstances suggest you should “tone it down”
You do not tone it down. You rise it up.
2- Dress Like You Are Expensive - Because You Are.
Let us be very clear: presentation is not superficial - it is strategic. How you dress is not about vanity - it is about alignment. Your wardrobe is a language before you ever speak - it tells the world whether you see yourself as temporary or inevitable. When you are walking through fire, you do not dress like a victim - you dress like an heir. Expensive is not about price tags - it is about intention, precision, and dignity, and an expensive woman understands that:
- Her image is part of her infrastructure
- Her appearance reinforces her authority
- Her style is an extension of her vision
She dresses for the woman she wants to be in the future, not the season she is currently surviving. Even in the storm - especially in the wild storms - she looks composed, because chaos does not get to rearrange her identity.
3- Fire Does Not Burn What Knows Its Worth.
Fire has one purpose: to reveal what is real. False structures collapse in heat, and weak materials melt. What remains is what was always authentic. Entrepreneurial fire tests:
- Your motives
- Your resilience
- Your integrity
- Your consistency
It asks whether you built this for applause or for an assignment. And here is the truth most people won’t tell you: Some women turn back not because the fire is too hot, but because success requires a level of responsibility they were not ready to carry. But you, you are still here, still refining, building, and after all, standing. Which means the fire did not come to destroy you, it came to introduce you to yourself.
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