Stop lending money to people who have already shown you they won’t repay.
This sounds obvious. But many people still do it.
They lend to family who never paid them back before.
They help friends who always say “next week.”
They put money into other people’s ideas before building their own stability.
They sign loans for people who are already bad with money.
Then they get surprised when it happens again.
That’s not kindness. That’s ignoring a pattern.
A simple rule to follow:
Only lend when there is clear ability to repay, strong character, or a real emergency.
And for emergencies, treat it as charity. Assume you won’t see the money again.
If you still want to help, there are better ways.
Give advice.
Make introductions.
Help them think through their situation.
And protect the relationship.
Sometimes the best answer is simple:
“I don’t lend money, but I’m happy to help in another way.”
Because a small, honest gesture keeps respect intact.
A forced loan often destroys both money and trust.
If you’ve ever lost money this way, you’re not alone.
Just don’t keep repeating the same lesson.
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