This is an area of my life I truly enjoy sharing with others, and I always get a surprising response. If someone would've told me 5 years ago that I would be in this lifestyle I would've laughed in their face. However, now that I'm here I can say that this is not a laughing matter, but a place of sheer happiness for me. As a matter of fact, if I'd known then what I know now, I'd been here sooner. For those who don't know, I am actively in the Polyamory Lifestyle and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made for my life.
- Polyamory defined: the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved.
My friend, don't clutch your pearls yet, first hear me out. I've been married twice which took up a valuable space of half my life. One day I'll tell you the full story of the numerous arguments about being committed, but yet the infidelity continued, with all parties at fault. After my second divorce, I decided to be brutally honest with myself and face the fact that I love black men of all sorts, plus my appetite for love, attention, and sex has always been rather large. Once I became sexually active as a teenager, my yearning desire for Black Brothas has always been on overload. It's something about their charisma, beauty, strength, and whole genetic makeup that makes me feel like an addict. I've tried to engage in other festivities, but my ultimate number one choice has always been a Man of Color.
At this point, I know you're asking, "Tiyi, why do you need more than one at the same time? Why can't you be in one committed healthy relationship and be content?" Thanks for asking, but no pun intended, why should I settle for a slice of dessert when I can openly have the whole cake and eat it too? You see, I've had many boyfriends with numerous of stories of having my heart broken, as well as being the one who broke hearts. I'm no way innocent when it comes to stories of being unfaithful to my partners. I can own up to my shit, but we'll speak more in-depth about this later.
One day, I decided to re-evaluate myself, so I had to choose a lifestyle that would set me free from the traditional way of doing things. See, growing up I've always had male relationships, and they've always been a huge part of my life. It was the male counterparts in my family who taught me how to physically fight, and also it was my one and only big brother who put me up on "game" as to navigating through relationships with males, and how to recover from heartbreaks. Today, I have two male best friends and I love them so much!
As I take time to share my story, I hope that you can open your mind to see it from my point of view without judgement. Even if you do judge me, I won't take it personal, I'll respect it. Why? Because free-spirited people are hella difficult to understand until you experience this kind of freedom for yourself. No, it doesn't have to be within this lifestyle, you may experience a freedom in other areas of your life that releases you from the man-made prison of guilt and shame. Listen, those days of my life are over, and because of it healing has been my portion. Since that day, I've been blessed to help so many people recognize and live in their truth.
So, there you have it, I am Poly and I love it! Currently, I have two amazing boyfriends (and a possible, lol). My three Kings treat me well with much love and respect. However, this is just part one of my story-there's so much more to come. Keep watching!
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