The AuDHD Accommodations Prep Guide: Know What to Ask For and How to Say It
Asking for a workplace accommodation is one of the most stressful conversations a neurodivergent professional can have. Most people put it off for months — or years — because they don't know where to start, what they're allowed to ask for, or how to say it without damaging their standing at work.
This guide gives you two practical tools to work through before you sit down with HR or your manager.
Part 1 — Disclosure Decision Guide Disclosure isn't one decision. It's a series of decisions, and you have more control over some of them than others. This guide walks you through whether to go formal or informal, whether to approach your manager or HR first, what to say in each scenario, and what to document throughout the process. Includes AuDHD-specific functional language examples grounded in limitations documented by the Job Accommodation Network (JAN).
Part 2 — Accommodation Request Prep Sheet A fillable worksheet to complete before the conversation. Covers what you're requesting, the functional limitation it addresses, why the accommodation fits, who you're approaching first, documents to prepare, and key phrases to practice out loud before you go in.
What's included: — 7-page PDF guide — Fillable write-in fields throughout — AuDHD-specific functional language examples you can adapt directly — Decision table for the manager vs. HR question — Documentation checklist for after the request goes in — References to JAN.org for additional free federal resources
This guide is for educational and planning purposes only. It does not constitute legal or medical advice. Every workplace situation is unique — if you have specific concerns about your rights, consult a qualified medical professional or labor attorney.
Also Included: 10 Most requested AUDHD accommodations based on JAN data and how to frame the request
Created by Brett Whitmarsh, AuDHD Boss Late-diagnosed AuDHD. 12+ years in corporate leadership including VP level. He's been on both sides of this conversation — the employee requesting accommodations and the manager receiving them.
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