Title: “You’re Not Behind, You’re Just on a Different Path”
By, Tahara DeBarrows LMFT
A Journey to Healing Counseling, PLLC
Let’s be honest—social media has all of us questioning if we’re doing life right.
You scroll through and see:
- Friends buying homes 🏡
- Engagement announcements 💍
- Promotions and career changes 💼
- Adorable babies wrapped in pastel blankets 👶🏽
And here you are wondering if cereal for dinner (again) was a valid adult choice.
Spoiler alert: it was.
Here’s the truth most people won’t post: there’s no one-size-fits-all timeline for life. Some people meet their person at 22, others at 42. Some have their dream job early, others build slowly and intentionally.
You’re not behind—you’re just on your timeline.
A Little Self-Check
Ask yourself:
- Am I honoring my values, or trying to keep up with others?
- Do I give myself credit for how far I’ve come?
- Am I being as kind to myself as I am to my friends?
Growth isn’t linear. Sometimes it looks like forward movement. Sometimes it looks like rest. Sometimes it looks like breaking down before rebuilding stronger. And all of that is valid.
Tips to Stay Grounded
- Limit the scroll – Comparison steals joy. Period.
- Celebrate small wins – Paid your bill on time? Go you!
- Connect with people who get it – Your people won’t judge your path.
- Talk to a therapist – No shame, just support and clarity.
Final Thought
You are allowed to grow at your own pace. You are allowed to pivot. You are allowed to not have it all figured out. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress.
So, if no one told you today: You’re doing better than you think. Keep going. You’ve got this.
With love and light,
Tahara
LMFT & Founder, A Journey to Healing Counseling, PLLC