What’s Pulling Us Out of Our Glow?
What Is Taking Us Down? — Long Form Blog #002
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1. When Looking Down Becomes a Habit
There’s a quote that says, “Hold your head up and never bend it.”
It sounds simple, but it’s a whole posture — a lifestyle, even. Holding your head up requires confidence, self‑trust, and a willingness to be seen. When your chin is lifted, your energy rises with it. You walk differently. You breathe differently. You feel in a deeper way.
But when is your head constantly bent? Everything feels heavier. Your neck aches. Your back tightens. Your mood sinks. Even your thoughts start bending with you. And sometimes, physical pain becomes a reminder that emotional weight has been sitting on you longer than you realized.
There are days when the back pain hits harder, or your cycle is approaching, and suddenly everything feels more intense. Your body whispers, “Something is off.” And if you’re honest, you know that the way you carry yourself — physically and emotionally — plays a role in how grounded or ungrounded you feel.
Looking down on others is another form of bending. It lowers your vibration. It disconnects you from your softness. It creates a false sense of superiority that eventually collapses under its own weight. When you look down on someone, you’re really lowering yourself.
And that is one of the first ways we begin to go down without noticing.
2. Hurting Others Hurts You First
There’s a path that opens every time you choose to hurt someone — whether through words, silence, shade, or intention. It’s a path that leads downward, not because you’re a bad person, but because the energy behind the action is rooted in lack, fear, or insecurity.
When you choose sweetness, softness, and emotional maturity, you rise.
When you choose pettiness, revenge, or cruelty, you sink.
You are capable. You are powerful. You are a grown woman with agency. But the real question is: Are you choosing alignment?
Because alignment is not accidental. It’s a decision. A moral compass. A moment‑to‑moment choice.
Sometimes you feel like a big girl — handling your responsibilities, showing up for yourself, doing what needs to be done. But then a situation arises, and you must decide:
Will I respond from my higher self or my wounded self?
That choice determines whether you rise or fall.
And when you choose the lower route, the downward spiral begins quietly. It doesn’t announce itself. It just pulls you, inch by inch, until you realize you’re far from where you intended to be.
3. Backstabbing and the Misalignment of Girlhood
Backstabbing is one of the quickest ways to lose your glow. Many of us have been caught in the middle of girl drama — sometimes as the target, sometimes as the witness, and sometimes, if we’re honest, as the participant.
There were moments when someone made a move not out of loyalty, but because it benefited them. And at the time, you may not have had the language to name it. But now, with age and emotional intelligence, you see it clearly:
That behavior was a misalignment.
Sweetness, peace, and genuine friendliness feel natural. They feel like you’ve come home. Anything outside of that — manipulation, jealousy, competition, betrayal — feels heavy. It feels like a step down.
And when someone chooses that energy, it can make you feel like you’re going down too, even though their actions are simply revealing who they are.
Growing up means recognizing that not everyone is meant to walk with you. Some people were only meant to teach you what misalignment looks like so you can recognize alignment when it arrives.
4. The Weight of Crowds and the Power of Solitude
Crowds can be exciting, but they can also be draining, chaotic, and overwhelming. They pull you away from your inner voice. They distract you from your wellness. They make you forget your standards.
Intimacy — being with someone you love, someone who grounds you — feels different. It feels safe. It feels intentional. It feels like alignment.
Crowd‑pleasing, on the other hand, leads to regret, resentment, anger, and emotional exhaustion. You give too much. You lose yourself. You say yes when you mean no. You flake because you’re drained. You feel guilty for needing rest. And eventually, you learn to make time non‑negotiable.
Even simple things — waiting in long lines, feeling overstimulated, dealing with attitudes — can push you into irritation or emotional overload. You start thinking, “Why am I even here?”
Years later, you realize you’ve outgrown that environment entirely. You walk the other way, not out of fear, but out of peace. You don’t envy the crowd. You don’t feel jealous. You just feel grateful that you’re no longer part of that cycle.
And when you hear stories about the same crowd still doing the same things? You feel a quiet relief that you chose differently.
5. The Danger of Crowd‑Driven Choices
Sometimes “going down” isn’t about drama — it’s about influence.
Crowds normalize behaviors that don’t align with your values. They glamorize chaos. They encourage impulses that lead to long‑term consequences.
You see it in celebrities too — people with money, fame, and access who still fall into destructive patterns because of the environments they stay in. When someone keeps choosing the same crowd, the same habits, the same cycles, it eventually takes them down.
If you’re strong, you climb back up.
If you’re not, you start believing that the downward path is normal.
And then one day, you look around and realize you’re far from who you used to be — and even farther from who you want to become.
That’s the danger of letting crowds define your choices.
6. The Emotional Spiral of Staying Down Too Long
When you stay down too long — emotionally, spiritually, mentally — you start adapting to the environment. You start believing that chaos is normal. You start thinking that drama is part of life. You start accepting behaviors you once would’ve rejected.
And then the discomfort hits.
All at once.
A wave of emotions that remind you:
This is not who I am.
That moment is painful, but it’s also powerful. It’s the beginning of your life.
7. Rising Back Up into Your Glow
The beauty of life is that you can always rise. You can choose softness again. You can choose alignment again. You can choose yourself again.
And when you do, everything shifts.
You start making money.
You start creating it again.
You start attracting clients who make you smile.
You start meeting people who brighten your day.
You start feeling proud of your work, your growth, your glow.
You step into a version of yourself that feels wealthy — not just financially, but emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Your home feels peaceful. Your kids are thriving. Your clients are kind. Your days feel full.
You realize that the glow isn’t about perfection — it’s about alignment.
It’s about choosing peace over chaos.
Softness over hardness.
Self‑respect over crowd approval.
Elevation over downward spirals.
And that is the real glow.
Thank you for reading, babe. I am signing off in pink and green — until next time.
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