From the moment we come into this world, the voices start—the world telling us who we should be. Be polite. Be quiet. Follow the rules. Fit in. We grow up surrounded by expectations, learning how to shrink ourselves to fit the moulds laid out for us. And over time, we begin to lose touch with the person we were before all the “shoulds” and “supposed to’s” took over.
If you’re like many people, you may have spent years trying to meet those expectations. You’ve played the roles, checked the boxes, and done what you thought you were supposed to do. But somewhere along the way, you might have felt it—that nagging sense that something is missing. That who you are deep down doesn’t quite match the life you’re living.
For me, this realisation was the beginning of becoming untamed. It wasn’t an overnight change, and it certainly wasn’t easy. It’s not about rebelling against everything you’ve been taught or breaking the rules just to prove a point. Becoming untamed is about returning - to your truth, your uniqueness, and the person you were always meant to be.
The Weight of Conditioning
Conditioning is the invisible weight many of us carry. It’s the silent pressure to conform, to fit in, and to meet other people’s expectations. It’s taught to us early and reinforced throughout our lives.
We learn that being quiet is better than being loud, that taking up less space is safer than taking up more, and that following the rules is the only way to succeed. Over time, these messages become internalised, shaping how we see ourselves and the world around us.
But here’s the thing: those expectations aren’t universal truths. They’re constructs, designed to keep things predictable and orderly. And while they may work for some, they can feel stifling for those of us who crave freedom, authenticity, and alignment with our true selves.
Peeling Back the Layers
Becoming untamed starts with awareness. You begin to notice the ways you’ve been holding yourself back or living in ways that don’t feel authentic. You start asking questions: Why am I doing this? Who am I doing it for? Is this really who I want to be?
The answers to these questions can be uncomfortable. They may reveal truths you’ve been avoiding or dreams you’ve suppressed. But they’re also the key to peeling back the layers of conditioning and reconnecting with your wild, untamed self.
This process isn’t about rejecting everything you’ve been taught. It’s about discerning what aligns with your truth and what doesn’t. It’s about keeping what serves you and letting go of what doesn’t.
Returning to Your Truth
At its core, becoming untamed is about returning to the truth of who you are. It’s about embracing the parts of yourself that you’ve been taught to hide. It’s about celebrating your uniqueness instead of trying to blend in. It’s about trusting your intuition and honouring your desires.
This journey is deeply personal and will look different for everyone. For some, it might mean setting boundaries or saying no more often. For others, it could mean pursuing a long-held dream or embracing a new identity. Whatever it looks like for you, it’s about reclaiming your freedom and stepping into your power.
You Were Made to Be Free
The truth is, you weren’t made to fit into someone else’s mould. You weren’t meant to live a life that feels small or stifled. You were made to be free - to live boldly, authentically, and unapologetically as the person you were created to be.
Becoming untamed isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it. It’s worth the discomfort of peeling back the layers, the vulnerability of reconnecting with your truth, and the courage it takes to live authentically. Because when you step into your untamed self, you step into a life of freedom, alignment, and purpose.
So, ask yourself: Who am I beneath all the shoulds? What does my untamed self look like? And what’s one small step I can take today to reconnect with her?
Because your untamed self is waiting. And she’s ready to be free.