Have you ever wondered how we individually create our own reality?
It is a highly fascinating process; one that I have become quite enthused in learning all that I could about the process since I made the decision to change my life six years ago.
Having personally experienced how much my life has improved as a result of putting the knowledge into practice, I found my love for wanting to share this information with others who were both ready and willing to change their life.
It is important that I pay a quick acknowledgement to all of the mentors who have appeared in my life to help shape my knowledge and understanding of this complex topic over the years. What I am about to discuss in this blog infuses both quantum physics, metaphysics and the psychology of human behaviour.
So, if you haven't already, grab a cup of tea and go sit in the sunshine...the content is highly fascinating and could truly change your life if you are ready to embody the concepts discussed in this blog.
When babies are first born, they enter this world as pure consciousness. They have no conditioning; zero inbuilt belief systems resulting from the exisiting maternal, paternal, cultural and societal structures that are in place in the environment they are born into.
It doesn't take long for this conditioning to occur, mind you.
As babies and small children go about navigating their few years of life, they are complete sponges for information. They experience an overwhelming amount of sensory information coming in that they are required to compute and process on a daily basis. This sensory information comes through from their external environment and the various experiences they encounter both individually and in the presence of other human beings.
Small children do not inherently know the difference between 'right' and 'wrong'. Over time, they learn to decipher this using the emotions, actions and behaviours of the adults and older children surrounding them as their reference point. Depending on the overall reaction they receive, small children will then adjust their behaviour accordingly to better suit their environment.
Let's take a closer look at the individual components that make up this process before moving on to see how it ties in together to formulate or construct our reality.
Experience - A small child encounters a new experience in life. They will look to their peers to support them in making meaning of this experience.
Emotions - The surrounding peers will display their reaction to the experience (could be either positive or negative) and this initiates a flood of emotion in the child (again could be either positive or negative).
Thoughts - The child will then create thoughts that are associated with this experience (i.e. I am loved, I am bad, I am not enough).
Beliefs - A thought repeated over and over again becomes an ingrained belief in that child.
If a small child has experiences where they repeatedly feel similar emotions and experience the same thoughts, this same child will go on to develop what is called an 'Inner most dominating thought'. An inner most dominating thought becomes the main belief they hold about themselves and their reality, and will deeply influence the way they will continue to show up in this world.
Each person's inner most dominating thought ingrains itself deep within our subconscious mind (which is the human body and not some deeper part of the mind) and forms the foundation of all other belief systems we chose to adopt or reject as we continue to experience life. In other words, we start filtering our experiences to look for beliefs that conform directly with the inner most dominating thought. This process is most prominent until a child reaches about the age of 8 years old.
Unfortunately with the current society we live in, most people today are often walking around with disempowering inner belief systems which often stem from the low levels of self worth and various degrees of trauma they experienced as children growing up.
This by no means is meant to be offensive, but in reality, nearly every single person currently alive on this planet (irrespective of their age) is walking around with the same belief systems they created prior to turning eight years old.
This seems simple enough to understand when the underlying process is explained. Let's now put this into context by sharing some real life examples of how this can play out every single day:
Let's say a six year old child has witnessed several experiences of their older sibling be loved and doted upon by a parent in a way that exceeds the level of love and acknowledgement they perceive they are receiving from that same parent. This same child is likely to interpret these situations to mean that there is something inherently wrong with them, or they are somehow 'less than' the other sibling. To be precise, the child is going to internalise the beliefs 'I am not enough' or 'I am not loved' and this becomes the foundation of their inner most dominating thought.
Moving forward with this as their inner most dominating thought, this same child will continue to interpret a similar meaning from any future experiences they encounter. This same child will also seek to recreate these same experiences in life - even as they progress into their teenage and early adulthood years.
Here are some further examples to showcase how an innermost dominating thought will continue to recreate itself within the life or reality of this same child as the continue to experience life:
- Finding out her primary school friends had a sleep over on the weekend and she wasn't invited.
- Being dumped unexpectedly because her high school boyfriend would rather get high with his mates than hang out with her on weekends.
- Having to leave home and becoming fully independent at the age of 15 due to an unstable home environment.
- Not being chosen to be a high school prefect or captain.
- Having her placement supervisor suggest that you have the skills to become a great dietitian, but she would never hire you to work for her based solely on her personality.
- Never negotiating her income/salary because she have been accustomed to other people dictating her worth for most of her life.
In case you may have guessed it, yes - these are my real life experiences.
I have done a lot of work over the years to rewrite the unconscious narratives I created from my experiences as a child growing up. Prior to me becoming aware of these narratives and commencing my healing journey, I walked around in world of perpetual shame, grief and guilt because the 'I am not enough' and 'I am not loved' story was running the entire show that was then my life.
I share these experiences with you not for sympathy, as the reality is these scenarios occur every day as a result of people being completely unconscious to their personal narratives and belief systems. What I really want to hone in on here is how important it is for people to become conscious of these narratives as it will continue to influence the trajectory of their lives moving forward.
Heres how:
If you have attended my Manifestation Workshop, then you would be familiar with the concept that our energy field directly interacts with the Quantum Field (the invisible energy field that creates or produces all things in life). What specifically makes up our energy field is the sum total of every belief and emotion we have ever experienced (and continue to experience) to date.
We can change our energy field to enable us to attract more or less of what we want into our lives by directly changing our emotional state. How we change our emotional state is by going to work on upgrading (and sometimes releasing) the current beliefs we have adopted about ourselves and our reality.
This is the fundamental basics of the Universal Law of Attraction. Understanding this concept and applying it to any area of your life where you actively want to make a change can be completely liberating.
I am not necessarily saying that it is 'easy work' - often it requires the help or support of a coach like myself to help guide you through this process. However, understanding this on an intellectual level really highlights to you how much power you have over changing your life - if you truly want to.