Let’s be real—love, on its own, is not enough. Love doesn’t pay bills. Love doesn’t lead a household. And love without responsibility? It fades fast.
I don’t believe a man should be asking a woman for money—unless she’s sowing into his ministry. I don’t support this modern mindset that says, “Don’t expect a man to take care of you if you can’t take care of yourself.” That’s not what the Word says.
The Bible says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord”(Proverbs 18:22). A woman is favor. She is increase. She is the blessing. And any man who finds her is supposed to recognize what he’s been given and rise to the occasion. That means providing—not just financially, but emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.
A real man prays for his woman. He prays with her. He leads her. He covers her. If he can’t take care of you spiritually and financially, if he has no vision for you or your future together, then he is not the one.
I don’t respect a man who lives off a woman. Period. Asking her for money, letting her pay for everything—that’s not manhood, that’s manipulation. I’ve seen it too many times in relationships, and it’s heartbreaking. A man who loves you should want to protect you, not drain you.
This 50/50 relationship narrative? It’s foolishness to me. Relationships should be 100/100—both people fully committed, fully present. But when it comes to provision? I believe it’s the man’s role to lead, to carry, to cover. That’s not weakness on the woman’s part—it’s strength in knowing your worth and expecting the standard.
Yes, I’m a businesswoman. Yes, I make my own money. But I have yet to meet a strong, secure man who feels comfortable depending on a woman financially. Real men take pride in providing. Real men want to take care of what they love. And I fully believe that is their position as the head of the household.
And let’s address this popular question: “What do you bring to the table?”
I am the table. God said a man obtains favor when he finds me. That means he needs me. I carry grace, strength, wisdom, and presence. I bring peace. I bring increase. So when a man asks what I bring—he doesn’t realize I am the blessing.
Love is beautiful. Love is powerful. But love without leadership, love without covering, love without provision—it’s not enough.
Ladies, don’t settle for just love. Look for leadership. Look for vision. Look for a man who doesn’t just say he loves you, but shows it by how he provides, protects, and prays.
Because at the end of the day—love isn’t enough.
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