Not too long ago, I was so anxious to get married. I longed for someone to love me so badly that it consumed my thoughts. I saw everyone around me getting married or in relationships, and it felt like I was missing out. I started to believe that love and happiness were tied to having a spouse.
But looking back, I realize that this longing for marriage ruined me. It wasn’t just about wanting companionship – it became an obsession. I unknowingly made marriage an idol in my heart. I spent more time fantasizing about my future spouse than I did spending time with God.
When Marriage Becomes an Idol
An idol is anything that takes God’s place in your heart. When you’re constantly anxious to get married, you start worshiping the idea of love instead of worshiping God. I reached a point where I prayed more about getting married than I did about growing in my faith.
Exodus 20:3 says, “You shall have no other gods before Me.” That includes marriage, relationships, and even love itself.
The Turning Point
I didn’t realize what it was doing to me until God opened my eyes. I began to mature spiritually and see my mistakes clearly. I saw how I was allowing my desire for marriage to pull me away from God. I was chasing after love when I should have been chasing after the One who is Love.
That’s when I made a decision: I was going to pursue God more than anything else.
The More I Chased God, The Less I Cared About Marriage
Something amazing happened as I kept chasing after God – the anxiety about marriage started to fade away. I became so wrapped up in His presence, His Word, and His purpose for my life that I stopped obsessing over a future spouse.
The more I grew in my relationship with God, the less I cared about getting married. I realized that my identity isn’t tied to a ring or a title; it’s rooted in Christ.
Freedom from Anxiety and Idols
I’m at a place now where I’m no longer anxious to get married. In fact, I don’t even pray about it anymore. Not because I’ve given up on the idea, but because I’ve surrendered it to God. I trust that if it’s His will, it will happen in His perfect timing.
I’m no longer desperate for love because I’ve found it in God. I’m no longer anxious because I trust in His plan. I’m no longer comparing my journey to others because I know my story is unique and beautifully written by Him.
What About You?
Are you anxious to get married? Are you constantly thinking about your future spouse or comparing yourself to others? Maybe it’s time to check your heart and ask yourself: Have I made marriage an idol?
If the answer is yes, it’s okay. God is ready to help you re-center your heart and find peace in Him. Remember, the goal is not to stop desiring marriage – it’s to desire God more.
Prayer for Surrender and Peace
Heavenly Father,
I surrender my desire for marriage to You. Forgive me for making it an idol in my heart. Help me to chase after You and not after worldly validation.
Fill my heart with Your love and peace. Teach me to be content in every season, knowing that You are my source of joy and fulfillment.
If it’s Your will for me to marry, I trust that You’ll bring the right person at the right time. Until then, I choose to seek You first, to grow in my faith, and to walk in my purpose.
Thank You for being enough for me. I love You, and I trust You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Final Thoughts
Chase God, not marriage.
Pursue purpose, not a partner.
Desire the Giver, not just the gift.
If you’re feeling anxious about marriage, remember that God knows the desires of your heart. Seek Him first, and He’ll take care of the rest (Matthew 6:33).
You are loved. You are whole. And you are enough – with or without a ring.
Comments ()