So I’ve learned something powerful lately:
Assumptions are a form of self-sabotage.
Let me explain.
There were times when I thought people were ignoring me
when in reality, they were just busy.
There were moments I assumed someone was upset with me—when the truth was, they weren’t even thinking what I imagined.
Do you know what was really happening?
The enemy was lying to me.
Whispering thoughts like:
• “They don’t care about you.”
• “They’re acting funny.”
• “You’re not important to them.”
And because I’m spiritual, I thought it was discernment.
But the truth? Sometimes it wasn’t discernment. It was fear, insecurity, or rejection in disguise.
Here’s the truth:
You don’t know everything.
“The heart is deceitful above all things…” (Jeremiah 17:9)
We walk by faith, not by feelings.
“For we walk by faith, not by sight.” (2 Corinthians 5:7)
You can’t assume someone’s thoughts or motives and label it discernment.
That’s dangerous. That’s pride.
And yes that’s self-sabotage.
A Scriptural Example: Hannah and Eli
In 1 Samuel 1, Hannah was weeping and praying silently in the temple. She was broken, desperate, and pouring her heart out to God. But Eli, the priest, assumed she was drunk.
“How long will you be drunk? Put away your wine from you.” (1 Samuel 1:14)
But he was wrong. He misjudged her pain and almost missed the purity of her prayer.
This shows us how even spiritual leaders can misinterpret what they see when they assume instead of discern.
Let this be a warning and a lesson.
What God taught me in this area is simple but freeing:
👉🏾 Give people grace.
Stop building false narratives in your head.
Stop canceling people in your mind based on assumptions.
Stop ruining God-given connections because of unhealed wounds and internal fears.
This is why I can speak on this because God dealt with me here.
And if He did it for me, He’ll do it for you too.
Let’s break the cycle:
Choose grace.
Choose truth.
And stop assuming. Assumptions is not discernment!
If you wanna know something, just ask
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