Let Me Explain….
This might sound extreme, but stay with me:
Unforgiveness is a form of slow suicide.
Not physical—but emotional, mental, and spiritual.
Maybe someone betrayed you.
They broke your trust, shattered your heart, or wounded you so deeply you swore you’d never forget it.
And you didn’t.
You carry that pain like armor, like a badge, maybe even like a shield.
But here’s the truth:
You refuse to forgive.
You refuse to release.
You refuse to let go.
And whether you realize it or not, you’re choosing to drink poison—hoping it will hurt them…
…but it’s you who’s dying on the inside.
Imagine someone handing you a cup of acid and convincing you to drink it—
You’d be outraged, right?
So why do it to yourself?
Why continue to suffer for someone else’s actions?
Unforgiveness gives someone power over you they no longer deserve.
They hurt you once—why let them keep hurting you every day after?
Unforgiveness doesn’t imprison the offender. It imprisons you.
While they go on with their life—possibly unaware or even unbothered—you’re the one carrying the weight.
You’re the one reliving the wound.
You’re the one stuck.
And here’s the hard truth:
God commands us to forgive.
It’s not optional.
In Matthew 6:15, Jesus says, “But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
God takes forgiveness seriously—because He knows what it costs you when you don’t.
Let’s be clear:
Forgiveness is not saying it didn’t hurt.
It’s not pretending it didn’t happen.
It’s saying: “I choose freedom over bitterness. I choose healing over holding on. I choose God’s way over my own pain.”
Because every time you choose unforgiveness, you kill a part of yourself—your peace, your trust, your purpose, your joy.
So who are you really punishing? Them… or you?
Let me put it another way:
If I brought you a cup of poison and told you to drink it, would you?
Of course not.
So why drink it emotionally every day through unforgiveness?
Unforgiveness is a form of self-hate.
It leads to destruction.
It feeds hurt with more hurt.
Have you ever noticed what hurt people do?
They start overeating.
Stop caring for themselves.
Start drinking, smoking, isolating.
Trying to cope… but only hurting themselves more.
It tricks you into thinking you’re hurting them—
But all along, you’re only destroying you.
The only way to break the cycle is this:
Let. It. Go.
Release it. Give it to God.
“Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)
Hurt is a disease that infects your soul—not theirs.
And forgiveness is the cure.
Not because they deserve it.
But because you do.
You deserve peace. You deserve healing. You deserve freedom.
And God requires it—because He loves you too much to let you keep drinking poison.
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