“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” — Ephesians 5:25
When the Bible says that husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church, it’s not a suggestion—it’s a divine command. And it’s not light. It’s deep. Life-changing. Weighty. When Apostle Joshua Selman said, “Study what it means to love your wife like the church,” he was inviting us into a deeper revelation.
This isn’t about flowers and good morning texts. It’s about sacrificial, covenant, Christ-like love. And if you’re going to do it God’s way, you must first understand how Christ loved the church.
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Sacrificial Love
Jesus gave His life for the church. That’s the model.
He didn’t love to get something back—He loved to give everything.
A real man of God doesn’t love his wife when it’s convenient. He lays down his pride, ego, and preferences for her well-being. He puts her needs before his own, just like Jesus did for us.
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Unconditional Love
Christ loved the church even when she was broken, rebellious, and imperfect.
He loved her into wholeness.
Loving your wife like Christ means loving her even when she’s not at her best. Even when she’s hurting. Even when she’s not easy to love. It’s not performance-based—it’s covenant-based.
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Protective and Covering
Jesus is our covering. He defends, protects, and intercedes for the church.
Husbands are called to be the spiritual covering for their wives—praying for her, protecting her heart, and standing in the gap when spiritual warfare comes knocking. She should feel safe with you—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
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Sanctifying Love
Ephesians 5:26–27 says that Jesus sanctifies and cleanses the church by the washing of the Word.
A godly husband speaks life into his wife. He encourages her destiny, builds her up in faith, and nurtures her calling. His words don’t tear her down—they elevate her.
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Consistent and Faithful
Jesus never leaves His bride. He is faithful even when we’re not.
Loving your wife like Christ means staying when things are hard. No wandering eyes. No secret conversations. No emotional abandonment. Just loyalty, stability, and covenant commitment.
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Provider and Nurturer
Christ provides for the church’s needs. He doesn’t withhold anything good from her.
A man walking in Christ-like love provides not just financially, but also emotionally and spiritually. He is tuned into her needs, willing to listen, learn, and show up fully present.
This Love Is an Assignment
Marriage is more than romance. It’s ministry.
When God commands a man to love like Christ, He’s giving him a divine assignment—to lead, serve, and cover his wife with wisdom, grace, and strength.
So before you pursue a woman of God, study Christ.
Before you say “I love you,” understand what it truly costs.
And when you say, “I do,” you’re saying “I will love you like Christ… even when it’s hard.”
Some Wisdom…
To every man reading this: You are the mouth and the model of Christ in your home. You are the representation of His love to your wife and future children.
Ask God for the grace to love as He loves.
Because a man who loves like Christ doesn’t just build a marriage—
He builds a legacy.
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