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Here is a story we can learn from....
Ken's divorce in Australia finally got settled in court and he's off to the Philippines for the first time to, in his mind, ''score birds''. He’s 60 years old Balding. Sporting a solid beer gut, zero sense of style, and about as much self-awareness as a brick. Yet somehow, the moment he steps off the plane, he believes he’s suddenly become irresistible to every young Filipina from Baguio to Bukidnon.
He’s convinced that the rules of attraction don’t apply to him anymore. Back home, he couldn’t get a second glance at the grocery store. But here in the Philippines? He thinks he’s God’s gift. He walks around like a celebrity, expecting girls even in their 20's to fall at his feet just because he speaks English, thinks he's ''special'', and has a pension.
The “Special” Syndrome
Let’s call it what it is: delusion. This guy thinks he’s different. He’s watched too many YouTube success stories of older foreigners marrying sweet, young, beautiful Filipinas who cook, clean, and massage their backs at night. And yes, those relationships do happen — but not for the reasons he thinks.
He doesn’t see the effort, respect, or patience those men put in. He skips the part where the successful expats learned about the culture, respected the families, built trust, and didn’t treat women like disposable entertainment.
Instead, he believes all Filipinas are easy, desperate, or gold diggers just waiting for a sweaty white knight to show up at the karaoke bar.
From Fantasy to Freak Show
What happens next is almost inevitable.
He arrives and hits the nightlife in Manila, Angeles, Cebu — wherever the action is. Wearing Target brand cargo shorts, a tight shirt two sizes too small, and an overpowering cloud of cheap cologne he got on special for $2 at KMART, he throws around pesos like he’s Jeff Bezos. He gets attention — of course he does. But it’s not coming from the women he thinks it is.
Night after night, he ends up going home with girls who pretend to like him — as long as the cash keeps flowing. He convinces himself they’re “different” because they smile and laugh at his jokes. But those smiles are all part of the hustle. They’ve seen a thousand guys like him and know exactly what to say and do.
Some aren’t even women — but our guy is too drunk or too desperate to care. Or even notice.
And when he finally does? The embarrassment is buried deep under layers of denial. He still believes his girl is the real deal. Until his wallet’s empty or he stops paying, and she’s suddenly gone.
Used, Drained, and Still Clueless
After a few months of living like a big shot, reality hits hard. His money’s low. His “girlfriend” is now texting other men. He’s been blocked, ghosted, or scammed. His friends back home won’t believe the stories he’s too ashamed to tell anyway.
Now he’s sitting alone in a cheap apartment binge watching ''Reekay'' and ''Gio In The Philippines'' videos, wondering what went wrong.
The truth? He never respected the culture. He never treated people as human beings. He treated the Philippines like a theme park, and women like souvenirs. And the Philippines taught him a lesson he’ll never forget — in the most humiliating way possible.
The Lesson: You’re Not Special Just Because You Showed Up
If you’re reading this and thinking of coming here, great. The Philippines is a beautiful country with amazing people, a warm culture, and yes — many genuine women looking for serious, lasting love.
But they’re not waiting to jump into bed with the first sweaty old guy who buys them Jollibee. They want respect, honesty, effort, and someone who treats them like more than a transaction.
If you’re 60 and you’ve still got charm, self-awareness, and humility unlike Ken, you can absolutely find love here. But if you show up thinking your mere presence deserves devotion — you’re just setting yourself up to get used, laughed at, and sent home broke.
Don’t be that guy. Learn. Listen. Respect. And leave the delusions at the airport.
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Cheers,
Jeff Brown
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