Why Some Foreigners Fail Miserably With Filipinas (Even If They’re Rich or Good-Looking)
Hi,
We have previously talked about the kind of foreigners that Filipinas are truly drawn to. Today, let’s flip it…
👉 Why do so many foreigners still get rejected, ghosted, or used—even if they have money, looks, or status?
Here’s what most guys still don’t get:
1. You Can’t Fake Connection
You can buy dinners, book fancy resorts, and send flowers every day—but if your energy is off, if you're not really present when you're with her, it shows.
Filipinas are intuitive. They feel your energy. If it’s transactional or shallow, they lose interest fast. A lot of guys are just sitting there thinking of ''banging her'' like in ways they have seen their favorite pornstars do. Most women pick that up easily, Filipina or not.
2. Trying Too Hard Screams Insecurity
Some men go overboard trying to impress—constantly showing off their wealth, their muscles, or their passport.
Truth is, trying to prove your worth often exposes that you don’t feel worthy in the first place. Lead with your wallett and she won't respect you but just see you as an ATM machine. She will though get truly hot and horny for Juan the trike driver who does not care so much about her and even treats her like garbage at times, and is broke.
3. Disrespect in Disguise
A lot of foreigners are polite… until they drink. Or get frustrated. Or assume they’re smarter.
It only takes one moment of talking down, interrupting, or mocking her culture to destroy what might have been a great relationship.
Filipinos are very sensitive about their culture and mock it or run it down in any way, even if something silly is happening and deserves to be mocked, they will resent you for that
4. Not Seeing Her as an Equal
You’d be surprised how many guys treat their Filipina as a project or a pet.
What she really wants is a partner, not a patron. She wants to be seen, heard, and valued—not micromanaged or “saved.” Again, act like that and she will either secretly or openly disrespect you. Do it enough times and don't be surprised if you get ghosted.
5. No Community = Easy Target
Foreigners who come to the Philippines alone, without support, often end up with the wrong women—or get scammed. Why? Because they don’t have trusted people around to give them honest feedback or warn them about scammers and pitfalls they will inevitably encounter in the Philippines.
Here's What Actually Works:
Be real
Be grounded
Be curious
Be clear with your intentions
Get around quality people
And that last one is key…
When you become a paid member of our Philippines Fun Expat & Filipina Hangout group, you’re not just joining a Facebook page—you’re joining a vetted community of serious people.
Every month, we host members-only meetups in Manila where you can meet high-quality Filipinas in person (and the past 3 events we have had twice as many women than men). You’ll also connect with expats who’ve been through it all and can give real advice.
Join the tribe here: https://payhip.com/b/04Nym
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Cheers,
Jeff Brown
Admin