Your First Trip to the Philippines: No, the Women Aren’t Lining Up for You (But the Hookers Might Be)
So, you're finally doing it. You've booked the ticket, watched a hundred YouTube videos, joined a few Facebook groups, and now you’re convinced that as soon as you land in the Philippines, you’ll be mobbed by young, beautiful Filipinas who can’t wait to love you just for being… you.
You're not alone. Plenty of guys — especially those of us a bit older, divorced, or disillusioned with dating in the West — come to the Philippines with big hopes. We've seen the success stories, the fairytale relationships, the wedding photos on Instagram. And yes, real love does happen here — but let's get something straight right now:
You're not Brad Pitt in his prime no matter how good you think you are. And this isn't a fantasy land where women fall at your feet just because you showed up which is what some expat You Tubers want you to believe!
What does happen when you land in Manila, Cebu, or Angeles City? If you're walking around a tourist area at night, wearing that "I just got off the plane and I'm looking for attention" face, you might get approached — but it’s not what you think. She’s not your dream girl. She’s working and you are her potential product and income source.
Most guys don’t want to admit they were clueless on their first trip or first few trips. But I’ve seen it a hundred times: the guy shows up, expecting women in grocery stores or cafes to approach him. When they don’t, and the attention doesn’t magically appear, he wanders into the wrong kind of bar — or a ladyboy hooker grabs his arm on the street — and suddenly his story becomes something else entirely.
What starts as a "romance tour" turns into a slow crawl through red-light districts and even his initiation into the world of ''backdoor love''.
Now let me be clear — I’m not here to shame anyone. What you do with your money and time is your business. But I’m here to wake you up before your first trip or few trips turn into a walking cliché.
Here’s what you need to understand before you come:
1. Not all Filipinas are looking for foreigners.
Yes, some are. But many aren’t and of married Filipinas, 99% are with Filipinos. You need to know the difference — and that takes time, awareness, and a little cultural intelligence which is covered in our eBook and video series..
2. Sex workers are smart — and they know who the newbies are.
That hopeful look in your eyes? The naive smile? The way you walk like you're in Disneyland? It all screams “fresh fish.” You're not attracting love. You're attracting professional hookers and ladyboys who can read you like a book and open your wallet wide.
3. If you don’t have a plan, the plan will be made for you.
That usually means you get led around by someone else's agenda — often into a hooker bar or straight into their scam. That's how it goes. Sometimes, before he comes to the Philippines, he may have had a Filipina lined up through a dating site or facebook, but most times they fizzle out after a week or two when the sex becomes boring, as she is not the right one for him. Then he goes to the malls thinking Filipinas will come up to him, but they don't,, and most guys are too shy to walk up to Filipinas and ask for their contact details.. Despair sets in and the hookers see it and hook onto him, or he goes to a bar and then they do..
So what’s the alternative?
Yes, it’s possible to meet someone amazing here. But not if you’re sleepwalking through your trip with fantasy goggles on. If you can't go up to a woman who is a stranger in your own country in regards to dating her, you will have the same problem in the Philippines. And s said above, if they come up to you they are nearly always sex workers or single mothers desperate for cash to pay bills.
What our membership offers you to solve your problem of not having a relationship with a beautiful, loving Filipina is firstly an eBook ''How To Meet Filipinas & What To Do On Vacation In The Philippines'', a 13 video series ''How To Find The Filipina Of Your Dreams & Live Happily Ever After'', an invite to our Manila monthly member's night out where you can meet some of the 9,000 Filipina members in the facebook group, and other great perks. We can even offer introduction services of quality, ethical Filipinas and also tours.
One thing we have found when we send our eBook and membership links to new paid members is about a third of people get it in their Spam box and thus never see it straight away. So what I will do is send the links on a separate email straight after I send you this email and ask you to look into your Spam box if you did not get the email with links in your Inbox..
Thank you,
Jeff Brown
Philippines Fun Expat & Filipina Hangout Admin