Hello again, beautiful souls...
Sunday night again and time for another of my weekly insight drops! This week, I’ve been noticing something fascinating. The more coaching sessions I do, the more I’m starting to see patterns in the challenges people bring to me. Different clients, different stories… but underneath it all, some of the same deep rooted fears and limiting beliefs.
Two things have really stood out lately, and one of them was a little too close to home.
The first is something I’ve seen with two separate clients, both wanting to grow their side hustle into a full-time, financially supportive business. They’re deeply passionate and talented ladies, who are more than capable of achieving their goals, but when it comes to pricing their services… that’s where the resistance shows up. "Am I really worth that much?" "Will people actually pay this?" "What if I charge too much and no one buys?"
It’s the classic tangle of self-worth and money mindset, and it’s something I’ve worked through myself in the past. Seeing it so clearly reflected in them has made me realise just how common this block is, especially for soul-led entrepreneurs. So much so that I’ve been inspired to create a stand-alone PDF and audio download specifically to support other soulpreneurs in breaking through these pricing and self-worth fears.
The second pattern that has really surprised me though is a fear of driving on busy A roads and motorways. It started with one coaching client who had developed a deep rooted anxiety around it. After working with her on the mindset shifts needed to overcome that fear, I thought it was just a one off. But then, in the space of a few weeks, three more women mentioned they struggle with exactly the same thing.
Now, I’m paying attention, because here’s where I need to be honest with you... I have my own version of this fear too.
Mine isn’t about motorways, but about driving in general. Over 20 years ago, I sat my driving test, fully prepared and ready. Everyone around me was convinced I would pass. In fact, when I told people I hadn’t passed, they refused to believe me. But nerves, and a series of unexpected incidents along the route that just kept adding to my torture (missing road markings, roadworks, flying debris from a pick up in front ....) caused me to fail. And immediately after the test something shifted in me.
I don’t know if it was fear, a mental block, or a mix of both, but from that moment on, I just couldn’t bring myself to sit behind the wheel again. The thought of driving completely traumatised me, and so I never attempted it again, in fact I refused point blank to even try and no amount of cajoling, persuasion or encouragement would shift me.
So now, when I see these women struggling with their own driving fears, I get it. I understand, because I’ve lived it too.
And it’s made me realise something! I’ve spent years telling myself it doesn’t really matter if I don’t drive, that it’s not a big deal. But deep down I know it's holding me back in certain areas, and the truth is, being able to drive would give me so much more freedom and independence.
Funnily enough, a few months ago I did think about doing something about it and I made a half hearted enquiry about hypnosis then I let it drift because I didn't really want to face that fear but noticing this pattern emerge has forced me to stop hiding from myself and acknowledge my own block. So I decided to stop making excuses and do something about it.....after all, how can I coach someone else through this driving block if I'm living in denial of my very own! It's time to walk my talk ...or more aptly, to 'DRIVE my talk'.
I've recorded a self-hypnosis audio for myself, and I’ve now started listening to it every night. I know that shifting a belief like this doesn’t happen overnight, but just taking this first step feels like a breakthrough in itself.
This is one of the most interesting things about coaching. You start to notice these recurring blocks, these shared struggles that so many people think they’re facing alone. But once we realise we’re not alone, it suddenly becomes easier to question the belief and take the first steps toward shifting it.
I’m curious, have you ever noticed patterns like this in your own life? Maybe among your friends, in conversations at work, or even in your own thoughts? Sometimes, just realising we’re not alone in our struggles is the first step to moving past them.
Until next week 
Jayne x
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