Podcast host Heather Ross and I discuss the delicate balance of influence and autonomy in parent-child relationships, particularly in the context of addiction. I point out how parents get caught in the bind of being blamed for the negative aspects of enabling without receiving any credit for the positive influence they may have. We reflect on the power dynamics and responsibilities that come with being a helper, the importance of respect and autonomy in relationships, and the need for a balanced approach to supporting loved ones with substance use disorder. (February 2024, 43 minutes)