đź–¤ To the Parents Holding Grief and Rage in the Same Home:
If you’re going through something similar — I see you.
It’s not easy being the one they lash out at.
It’s not easy holding space while holding your own broken heart.
Here’s what I’m learning:
🌿 Grief has many costumes.
It can look like anger. Defiance. Silence. Explosions.
Especially in our boys, who are told from so young to be “strong” instead of real.
🪞 We can love our kids and hold boundaries.
I told my son today:
"You can’t keep using your sister’s death as an excuse to let your anger control you."
That was a hard truth. But a necessary one.
Because love doesn’t mean letting harm repeat.
đź’§ We have to breathe before we respond.
Some days I want to scream or give up. But then I remember — I’m the safe place.
And sometimes safe places take damage. But we rebuild.
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💌 If You’re in the Middle of It:
1. You are not a bad parent.
2. Your child is not a bad kid.
3. This pain is not permanent.
4. You are allowed to cry. To rest. To not have all the answers.
5. Keep showing up. With honesty. With boundaries. With love.
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💖 Let’s Normalize Talking About the Hard Days
This is part of parenting no one posts on Instagram.
But it’s real. It’s raw. And it matters.
So here I am, telling the truth.
If this helped you — share it. Leave a comment. Or just take a deep breath and know…
You’re not alone. And neither is your child.
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From one mama doing her best, even on the messy days.
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