“Self-sabotage” is a topic that I will repeat many, many times. Not only is this topic extremely dangerous for your relationships and personal development, it’s also something that is VERY COMMON.
What is self-sabotage?
Self-sabotage is when an individual unconsciously damages progression in their relationship or personal life.
Why do they do it?
People become affected by self-sabotage because their mind is riddled with bad, past experiences, and to get back on track with their normal thought patterns, an individual will sabotage positive moods and events on an unconscious level.
In other words, they’re directly causing harm to themselves to feel NORMAL again. Even though misfortune will come directly from their actions, they’re unaware of what they are doing.
What causes a person to self-sabotage?
Well, this disorder is not caused by only one or two events in a person’s life. When someone feels the need to damage positive progression, it’s typically due to many years or experiences that have produced negative results.
Having a traumatic childhood due to sexual or physical abuse tends to be the leading cause for victims. Domestic abuse in adult relationships, or having a long string of unfaithful partners can also cause this to take place.
When a person becomes accustomed to receiving negative results, once they finally seek happiness, their brain will correct the mindset change to reach “basic normality”, and their actions will sabotage any progress.
This can be a very dangerous issue when a person affected with this is responsible for having family.
In addition to being oblivious of causing their own misfortune, this misfortune is spread to other family members. This is why it’s imperative to undergo the proper therapy to remove this from a person’s life.
Can this be resolved without professional intervention?
Absolutely, however, changing a person’s thought patterns can be an extremely difficult task to successfully complete.
When you look back, can you name a time that you experienced self-sabotage?
Do you recall what caused this insecurity?
Are you currently involved with a significant other that displays signs of this?
Continue to BUILD yourself up, continue to LEARN more about your partner, and continue to always
BECOME the best version of yourself!