Smart Ways to Handle Emotional Pain

Unless you are a masochist, you’ll do everything in your power to avoid pain. When someone in your life hurts you, it’s a feeling you despise!

However, when you understand the true purpose of pain, you can approach this powerful signal with an intelligent perspective.

Pain serves as an internal warning, alerting you that a person or situation is detrimental to your well-being. Yet, many people learnt to ignore their pain during childhood as a survival mechanism.

Faced with circumstances beyond your control, you may have developed the habit of diverting your attention away from your own suffering and instead focusing on the individuals who inflicted it.

You sought ways to influence their behaviour, hoping they would treat you better. As a child, your options were limited, and this became your best strategy for coping.

The harsh truth is that the habits formed in childhood tend to stick with us into adulthood unless we actively challenge and alter them.

As an adult, when someone hurty you and continue to give them opportunities to harm you, you are not only operating on an autopilot pattern; you are betraying yourself. Eventually, when you muster the courage to cut ties with this toxic person, you may find yourselves dealing with regret and confusion. The haunting question of "Why did I put up with this for so long?" can make you stupid for letting the situation go on.

To hold the reins of higher level of control over your life and end this self-harming cycle, two essential elements must be integrated into your life:

self-awareness and introspection.

By adopting these elements, your outlook will undergo a revolutionary change. This will elevate your actions from mere routine to intentional and impactful choices that reflect your true worth.

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