Ways to Show Yourself Love When You Are Feeling Lost

Quotes on self-love saturate our feeds, offering beautiful words that resonate with everyone. While they may spark a moment of insight, real change in our lives often remains elusive. The conversation below could be the first step towards embracing self-love:

Maria: How can I give myself the love I need? How can I give myself love when I don't know what being loved unconditionally feels like?

Me: There isn't a single answer that will resonate with everyone, as each of us has had unique childhood experiences. However, we often extend to others the kind of love we longed for as children and continue to desire as adults. Consider this: how would you typically show love to someone (whether a person or an animal) you care for deeply?

Maria: I don't feel safe. How can I feel safe? I have grown used to feeling abandoned to the point where I have built walls due to my lack of trust. Sadly, those individuals who earned my trust and entered my life were the ones who ultimately betrayed, manipulated, and mistreated me. This fear has become a self-fulfilling prophecy, reinforcing my deep-seated belief that I cannot trust people.

Me: Perhaps this analogy will help you find the answer: imagine finding an abandoned cat or dog. They are malnourished, wounded, and incredibly fearful, reacting aggressively to keep people away. Yet, you decide to care for them. Through consistent patience and loving actions, they gradually begin to feel safe in the world and their unique personality starts to shine.

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