Hello Everyone,
Today I went out with one of my friends for a girls’ lunch and a few hours of just hanging out… just being. And honestly? It was a really good day.
Life gets busy. Work, family, responsibilities, stress, scrolling endlessly on our phones pretending we’re “relaxing” while somehow ending up more mentally exhausted than before. So taking a few hours to simply exist with someone you care about felt needed.
It had been over three months since we last got together, so we spent most of the day catching up on life and all the things that happened in between.
And today made me realize a few things.
#1 Time will continue to pass whether you pay attention to it or not.
And honestly, that goes for money too.
One minute you’re saying, “We need to get together soon,” and the next thing you know, a whole season of life has passed.
That’s why being intentional matters so much.
Because if you’re not paying attention to where your time, energy, money, and focus are going… life will quietly spend them for you.
#2 A lot can happen in a short amount of time.
Check on your people.
Seriously.
People can go through heartbreak, burnout, depression, grief, healing, growth, success, identity shifts, relationship struggles, or life-changing moments all while still posting “I’m good” online.
We are all carrying things others can’t see.
So text your friend. Call your mom. Go to lunch. Sit on the porch. Make time for people while you still can.
#3 Self-care has to be intentional.
And no, self-care is not selfish.
The problem is people hear “self-care” and immediately think luxury vacations, expensive skincare, or wine nights.
Sometimes self-care is literally sitting in silence.
Sometimes it’s saying no.
Sometimes it’s going outside.
Sometimes it’s finally resting without feeling guilty about it.
And what self-care looks like is completely up to you.
During our little adventure today, we stopped into a shop called Crows Crossroads. The owner, Aurora Whitebird Collins, was incredibly sweet and attentive. She showed us a book she wrote called Whistling Up the Wind, and I bought it on the spot.
When I got home, I started reading it immediately, and I already knew I had to tell you guys about it.
The book shares Aurora’s journey and the wisdom she gained along the way, but one lesson especially stood out to me.
She talked about how when we take the time to be still—to truly connect with nature, our bodies, and ourselves through prayer or meditation—God, the universe, whatever you personally believe in… speaks.
Not always loudly.
Not dramatically.
But clearly.
During one of her meditations, she said she received a message she felt through her whole body:
“We are losing touch with the earth.”
And when she asked how she could help spread that message, the answer she received was simple:
“Show them through your actions.”
Whew.
That hit me hard.
Because look around.
We are probably the most connected generation in history… and at the exact same time, one of the most disconnected.
We are plugged into everything except ourselves.
We don’t sit still anymore.
We don’t listen anymore.
We don’t appreciate enough anymore.
We are losing touch with the earth, with each other, and honestly… with ourselves.
We don’t show love to the earth because we don’t stop long enough to appreciate its beauty and wonder.
We don’t show love to ourselves because we let other people, trends, expectations, and social media determine how we should live, look, think, and feel.
And our kids are growing up watching all of it.
Right now, so many children are being raised in a culture obsessed with immediate gratification, temporary satisfaction, and “I want it now” thinking without understanding the damage that mindset can cause—not just to the world around them, but to themselves too.
And before anyone starts blaming “this generation,” let’s be honest… they learned a lot of it from us.
That’s why we have to do better by showing them through our actions.
Not just preaching it. Living it.
We have to relearn boundaries.
Relearn rest.
Relearn gratitude.
Relearn how to love ourselves enough to slow down.
You know how they tell you on airplanes to put your oxygen mask on first before helping others?
That applies to real life too.
If you are constantly exhausted, disconnected, overstimulated, emotionally drained, and running on empty, eventually everybody around you feels it too.
We have to learn how to put the mask on first.
And maybe… maybe we need to relearn how to simply be.
Not perform.
Not prove.
Not constantly produce.
Just be.
The earth doesn’t rush. Nature doesn’t compete. Children don’t overthink every laugh before they have it.
They just exist fully in the moment.
There is something deeply healing about that.
So laugh more.
Play more.
Love more.
Touch grass lol.
Seriously.
Go outside. Watch a sunset. Put your phone down for a little while. Hug your people longer. Listen to the birds. Take the walk. Drink the coffee slowly.
This world we inherited is still beautiful, even with all its chaos.
And so are you.
You are enough exactly as you are.
And if you need help learning how to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and start living instead of just surviving, I’m here.
I also linked my store below where you can download worksheets and workbooks designed to help you help yourself.
https://payhip.com/HelpYourselfHub
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