Hey everyone,
I've been learning about reverse engineering for about a year now. If you're anywhere near the AI world, you've heard the term too. But real quick — reverse engineering is just starting with the end goal already locked in your head, then working backwards to figure out how to get there.
I thought I understood it. I've heard it a hundred times.
Then I was sitting in a webinar — Laura was teaching people how to use Make inside our Skool community, AI Roadmap for Women — and she said something that stopped me cold. She said, "You have to start with the end outcome and work your way backwards. You actually have to start thinking backwards in order to figure it out."
I have heard some version of that sentence more times than I can count. But something about the way she said it this time landed in a completely different part of my brain. I don't even know why. It just hit different.
And I think I know what cracked it open.
I've been reading Rich Dad's Cash Flow Quadrant, and they keep coming back to this idea that if you want a different result, you have to think differently. Not work harder. Think differently. Then a couple days before that webinar, Jessica — the lead of our Skool community — told me straight up: go all in on what you're good at.
We weren't raised that way. We were taught to strengthen our weaknesses, fix our gaps, be well-rounded. And somewhere in the middle of all that fixing, we lose track of what we're actually great at.
Everything over the past couple of weeks has been pointing me in the same direction. Change how you think. Stop trying to patch the weak spots. Lean into your gifts.
I'm telling you all of this because maybe you need to hear it too.
There's nothing wrong with survival mode. I really mean that. Sometimes you do the bare minimum just to get through the day, and that's not weakness — that's reality. Life is a bitch sometimes, and you do what you gotta do.
But here's what I'm starting to understand. Life doesn't have to stay hard. We all go through our stuff. We all have things we're not good at. But we also have gifts that are ours alone, and most of us are walking around ignoring them because we're too busy trying to fix the parts of ourselves that were never the point.
You might make the best cheesecake in the world. But if you're splitting your time between cheesecake and fifty other things you're just okay at, you're never going to build something real from it. The person who picks one thing and goes all the way in on that one thing? That's where the results are.
I've been fighting this battle all year. I want to help everybody. I want to do all of it. And I kept telling myself it was because I cared.
If I'm being straight with myself? It was fear.
If I'm stretched across ten things, nobody can hold me accountable to any of them. Nobody can say I failed at something, because I never fully committed to anything. That's not dedication. That's a hiding place. And I had been sitting in it, calling it hustle.
For the past couple of years I've been doing the real work — catching my fears before they make my decisions for me, picking apart the limiting beliefs I didn't even know I had. Stuff that got poured into me by life, by family, by school, by people who were probably just passing down their own fear without realizing it. I'm unlearning all of it.
When you break it all the way down, we're all just trying to survive the best way we know how. So what if we started doing that by actually using what we're best at?
Start with the end. Think backwards from there. That's where I am right now, and it's changing everything.
If you need help figuring out what that looks like for you, I'm here. And if you want to move at your own pace, my guides and worksheets are in the link below — grab whatever helps you take the next step.
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Anna Bernard | The 3C's of Mastery — Courses, Coaching, Consulting
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