I was having a conversation with a friend a week ago about relationships. She had someone in her life but it was complicated. I asked her if she could widen her experiences with the people she meets daily. Go to events, make new friends, and open up to the world and its unlimited options. She replied, "I can't find someone else, so I will just settle with the one I have." I was shocked. She said these words between the lines but, they were too loud for me to ignore and resume the conversation as if she said nothing or as if that's the norm now.
Our Need for Speed: Security & Certainty
The rush, that we are always in. The rush to succeed, to get married, to have kids, and to make money. When all of these things take the longest time to build. Because if they were not built on a strong basis, they would very soon fall. Why are we rushing? rushing is stressful, it's anxiety running in your blood, and it's us forgetting and missing the simple things and sadly the most important. Did our brains get so wired to fast and cheap dopamine that nothing seems to satisfy us? That speed became the only measure of security? As if we are racing not just with our colleagues at university or work, but also with all the other people we see daily on our feeds over social media. Love, success, and making money have no estimated time. But, we are too programmed to believe the absolute contrast of that. Once you get the thing that you were in a rush to get, you feel happy for a while and before you know it you start rushing to the next shiny thing. You can achieve all that you want and still feel unsatisfied with your life and believe me that is the worst feeling a person could ever have. It is the balance between achievement and the art of living.
Slow Living & Joy of Missing Out (JOMO)
Whether you like it or not, you will miss out! and that's not a bad thing because you are uniquely different than others. Your values, what you want, and where you want to go. Your character traits, your strengths and weaknesses. All of you is different from everybody else. You are experiencing what is it to be human. To feel, to love, and to live. Slowly eating to enjoy the taste of your food, absorbing the beauty of a sunrise, peacefully walking, sitting with painful emotions feeling them then releasing them, learning and growing spiritually to become the best you could be. It is the joy of missing out, on all the things that aren't for you and the present to all that is.
Final words
Being so in tune with the present moment creates trust. You are no longer worried if you are in a relationship or not. Because your inner wisdom knows, that everything happens for a reason and everything collaborates in your favor. A relationship will never be loving if you don't love who you are. When you love who you are, you are okay with having a partner and also okay with not having one. Enjoy your time on this planet slowly and with love, because life only moves forward.
"All moments will be lost in Time, just like Tears in the rain" - Anonymous.
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