Finding My Ase' A Boundary and Self-Reflection Workbook For Women Who Are Always Showing Up for Everyone Else

What would life look like if you weren’t the person holding everything together for everyone?

Finding My Aṣẹ is a boundary and self-reflection workbook for women who spend so much time caring for others that their own needs get pushed aside.

Created by Ajai Craig, M.S., MFT, CAMS-II, this workbook begins with a question—“What If I Let It Fall?” Through guided reflection and practical exercises, you’ll explore the responsibilities you carry, the guilt behind an automatic yes, and what it could look like to receive more support.

Inside, you’ll find opportunities to:

• Recognize how always being available affects your daily life.

• Identify needs you have been putting off.

• Consider which responsibilities to keep, share, or release.

• Practice boundary phrases in your own voice.

• Ask for specific, realistic support.

• Reflect with affirmations, weekly check-ins, and space to write.

• Create a small plan for making room for yourself.

The workbook also introduces the Yorùbá spiritual concept of Aṣẹ and invites you to consider your own sources of connection, purpose, and strength.

With soft purple floral designs and writing space throughout, Finding My Aṣẹ offers a gentle place to pause and explore your choices. Work through one page at a time, return to the questions that matter to you, and choose a manageable boundary to practice.

For the woman everyone depends on, this is an invitation to give her own needs a place, too.