Beyond Loss: The Power of Purposeful Grief

Grief is inevitable. But being lost in it doesn’t have to be.

We don’t get to choose whether we grieve—but we can choose how we carry it.

Beyond Loss: The Power of Purposeful Grief is my journey with grief, beginning with having the ground fall out beneath me, to discovering how my culture and my mother had prepared me, in both obvious and subtle ways, to carry grief with intention. It’s about noticing, observing, and contemplating the many micro choices I made to carry my grief in a way that felt purposeful, allowing me to continue giving meaning to the love and lives of my dear ones who are gone.

In Western culture, many of us are taught that grief has a timeline, that we should "be okay" quickly, and that others expect us to move on. On the outside, you may conform to these expectations, but on the inside, you’re wondering, “Why can’t I get over this? Why does this still feel so bad? What’s wrong with me?”

Beyond Loss acknowledges what many grieving people already know—that we never “get over” the loss of someone we love. Instead of striving for that, we can gain perspective and tools to transform and integrate grief over time, carrying it with us in a way that allows us to stay connected to our loved ones and keep their essence alive. We can continue to be shaped by their love, and in doing so, allow them to continue shaping the world through us.

Drawing from my personal experiences, professional insights, and cultural perspective, Beyond Loss offers a guide to carrying grief in a way that nurtures and empowers you. It helps you transform your pain into a source of strength and connection, confirming what you may already know deep down—that grief doesn’t follow a set path. This book is for anyone who feels that their grief doesn’t fit the typical narrative or who believes they are alone in their journey.



Beyond Loss offers an invitation to see grief not as something to "get over" but as a lifelong relationship with those we've lost, and a source of power and purpose that can shape our journey moving forward.