Boundaries for Primary Age Children

Clear, calm boundaries don’t have to mean battles.

This parent guide shows you how to set limits with primary-aged children in a way that is firm, consistent, and deeply connected — without shouting, punishments, or power struggles.

If you’ve ever thought:

“I want to be gentle, but I also need my child to listen…”

This handout is for you.

What’s Inside:

✓ What healthy boundaries look like for 5–11 year olds

✓ A full page on what gentle parenting IS and ISN’T (myth-busting)

✓ Common misconceptions about gentle parenting

✓ The “Calm → Connect → Boundary → Support” method

✓ Scripts for setting limits kindly but clearly

✓ What to say when children push back or become dysregulated

✓ Explanations of natural and related consequences

✓ Practical examples you can use immediately

You’ll learn how to:

• Say no without guilt
• Stay empathetic and stay in charge
• Reduce power struggles and emotional escalations
• Use related consequences that teach rather than punish
• Make boundaries feel safe, predictable, and respectful
• Help your child develop responsibility and emotional skills

Perfect for parents who:

• Want to move away from shouting or punishments
• Are confused about what gentle parenting really means
• Have a child who pushes limits, becomes overwhelmed, or gets “stuck”
• Want routines, boundaries, and expectations to feel smoother
• Prefer an attachment-based, trauma-informed approach

Created by an experienced child therapist

Written by Willow, BACP Registered Counsellor and Specialist in Child & Parent Work, this guide integrates therapeutic wisdom with everyday parenting tools.

Give your child the gift of clear, safe, compassionate boundaries.

Download instantly and start using these tools today.

Handout purchasers receive an exclusive 20% discount on their first parenting session or child counselling session with Willow.