Beyond Chemistry: An Intentional Dating Guide for Gay Men

Beyond Chemistry: An Intentional Dating Guide for Gay Men is a practical, therapist-informed workbook designed to help gay men date with greater clarity, intention, and self-awareness.

Chemistry can be exciting—but it doesn't necessarily tell you whether someone is compatible with you, emotionally available, or capable of building the kind of relationship you actually want.

Created by gay men's specialist psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, this guided workbook helps you step back from the intensity of attraction and look more clearly at what you're experiencing.

Through structured questions and exercises, you'll explore:

• What you're actually looking for in dating and relationships
• What you observed on a date versus what you may be assuming or hoping
• Attraction, appearance, sexual energy, and compatibility
• Relationship structure, sexual compatibility, communication, boundaries, and future goals
• Green, yellow, and red flags
• Whether you're genuinely interested in someone—or primarily trying to be chosen
• Your next intentional step, including practical message starters for difficult dating conversations

Rather than asking only, “Do we have chemistry?”, Beyond Chemistry helps you ask a more useful question: “What kind of relationship could we actually build?”

Designed for gay men who want to approach dating with curiosity rather than anxiety, fantasy, or pressure, this workbook can be used after a date, while getting to know someone, or whenever you find yourself unsure what a new connection really means.

12-page downloadable PDF workbook.