DEFENSIVENESS OR RESOLUTION: A Biblical Guide to Ending Reactive Conflict and Rebuilding Connection

Stop defending. Start resolving.

DEFENSIVENESS OR RESOLUTION is a 64-page Christian workbook for couples who want to end the cycle of reactive conflict and rebuild connection. Across 12 in-depth chapters, you'll learn to recognize defensiveness, understand what it protects, break the defensive cycle, count the cost of staying defensive, regulate before responding, listen for meaning, validate without surrendering truth, take responsibility, apologize and repair, move from argument to resolution, set boundaries without building walls, and rebuild trust through consistency.

Each chapter includes His Corner & Her Corner perspectives, real-life conflict scenarios, resolution conversation scripts, KJV Scripture, reflection questions, prayers, and weekly practices — plus a 14-day repair plan.

"A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger." — Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)

Author: Mikenson Dorcinvil