Why We Cling to What Hurt Us

She keeps going back to what hurt her. She stays quiet when she has so much to say. She puts everyone else first and forgot she was even on the list. She built the career, raised the children, held everyone together — and somewhere in all of it, lost herself completely.

This book was written for her.

Why We Cling to What Hurt Us is not just about toxic relationships. It’s about every pattern that has kept you bound — in your career, your marriage, your friendships, your ministry, your role as a mother, your identity as the strong friend who never gets to fall apart.

Whether you lost yourself in a relationship, your career, motherhood, ministry or in being the woman everyone else needed — this book explains the WHY behind the patterns that have kept you stuck.

Not just why you stay. But why you shrink. Why you silence yourself. Why healing feels dangerous. Why letting go feels impossible.

This is the book I wish I had when I was still searching for her.

She’s still in there. 🤎