The Man's Guide to Finding Her

The Man’s Guide to Finding Her

Pursuing a woman the right way. Become. Pursue. Discern.

Most men learn how to attract a woman. Very few learn how to love one.

In this short, practical guide, former Division I football player Donavyn Lester shares the mistakes he made with women, what Scripture taught him about pursuing someone the right way, and the steps that changed how he approaches relationships. It’s written in a direct, big-brother voice, with no fluff and no pickup lines.

Inside you’ll learn how to:

• Pursue God first, so your relationships come from character instead of validation
• Deal with your past and get your life in order before you pursue anyone
• Recognize a woman of God by her fruit, not just her looks
• Approach her with confidence and state your intentions clearly
• Set boundaries and pursue purity, including what to do when you’ve already crossed them
• Plan intentional dates and ask questions that matter, on any budget
• Lead without controlling, and stop trying to be her savior
• Seek wise counsel, then commit or end things honestly

What you get:

• 47 pages in 8 short chapters
• Key takeaways at the start of every chapter
• A “Put It Into Practice” exercise at the end of each chapter
• A 10-question Marriage Discernment Checklist
• A prayer to read before you begin
• Foundational Scripture (ESV) in every chapter

This book is for you if you’re a single Christian man who wants to date with purpose, honor God and honor the woman you’re pursuing.

This is not a formula that guarantees a relationship. It’s a guide to becoming a man worth following. Instant PDF download, readable on any phone, tablet or computer.