The House Next Door

Some relationships are difficult because two people are built differently and keep missing each other for years, without either one being cruel. If that is the one you are in, and the other person will not work on it with you, every page here is still yours. Nothing in it asks them to participate.

A 97-page workbook across ten sections: where the difficulty actually lands among the five parts of your house, what the relationship has been costing and which of that was never yours to carry, the hope you are still holding and the evidence it rests on, what a middle version could look like instead of all or nothing, and the conclusion you came away with about yourself. It closes with a section on when this is the wrong advice, and a thirty-day practice.

It does not assume you can leave, that you want to leave, that the relationship will improve, or that the other person will ever acknowledge any of it. None of those are required for it to help. Fillable on your computer, or print it and write by hand.