Put Yourself First: From ADHD People-Pleasing to Putting Yourself First at Work

You know you don't have to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm, right?

"No" should be a full sentence, but for many of us, we can't even get out that one word. ADHD people-pleasing isn’t just about being “too nice” or "too soft". You say yes because it’s a survival strategy... even if it often backfires, leaving you exhausted, resentful, and invisible. This workbook helps you identify which subsystem is driving your people-pleasing: is this a feelings thing? A fear of rejection? Do you think you only deserve love if you earn it somehow? Once you have a theory, this workbook gives you targeted prompts and space for reflection to shift the pattern.

Key Features:

• Subsystem diagnostic to pinpoint whether your people-pleasing is driven by discomfort avoidance, fear of rejection, or deep-seated beliefs.
• Four-question relationship audit to recalibrate where you’re over-investing your energy.
• Dig into the story you're telling about yourself to uncover and reframe the beliefs keeping you stuck
• Learn why you need to put the oxygen mask on first to avoid burnout.
• Build a "support squad" to ensure you’re not the only one advocating for you.

For you if: You’re done prioritising everyone else’s comfort over your own needs and want to build a system where self-advocacy feels less terrifying and more natural.